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Releasing stress with sex

Published:Monday | November 3, 2014 | 12:00 AM

Cathy Risden, Lifestyle Writer

Can a relationship be 'good' without great sex? Or is sex the glue? Life is stressful. Getting under those sheets can do wonders for the mind and body - it can improve mood and combat anxiety by reducing stress signals in the brain.

A healthy sex life contributes to a man's physical and mental well-being. Jermaine Elliot reveals how his stresses are released by having lots of sex. "The first time I had real stress was when my girlfriend left me, so I had sex with other women and it did wonders," he told Flair.

Although it never changed the situation, it freed his mind - taking it off his worries for a good period of time. Elliot said that he never got over his girlfriend until about a year and a half later, but continuous sexual encounters helped him to eventually get back on his feet.

Different strokes for different folks, and that's why Elliot's style of romancing is to ensure both parties are satisfied - starting off with foreplay. During the arousal of the body, deep breathing takes place. It was said that breathing overall relaxes the body, oxygenates the blood and reduces the stress feel.

emotional health

Elliot expressed that he enjoys romancing his women. We all know how relaxing a massage is. It's a great stress reliever - it has been proven that touching is good for our emotional health. When he is having sex, he feels supported and loved, because of the attention he is getting and especially because his body is releasing endorphins and other feel-good hormones, and as a result he releases stress.

Elliot's job is pretty sedentary, so sex gives him the exercise he needs. He burns a lot of calories during sex and gains the stress management benefits of exercise as well. On the other hand, Damion Edwards disagrees with the notion that sex release stress "It does nothing for me really, because the situation and worry will still exist, all I want to do after sex is smoke; now that helps," said Edwards.

Dr Anthony Allen said that a healthy marriage improves ones mental and physical health. "Healthy sexuality can improve one's wellness, not just the physical act but the intimacy that takes time to develop, also friendship, respect, genuine love - all this is compact with one's personality and social skills that will all make a healthy relationship," he concludes. Dr Allen also notes that if sex is not being used in a healthy way, then there is a problem, "Sex can be used as a dramatic attachment, which will automatically lead to an unhealthy relationship," he expressed.

Sex is satisfying, and if your sex life is not working out, the entire relationship is vulnerable to distancing, infidelity and a break-up. Sex eases anger. When we connect physically, we cut our partners some slack.

cathyrisden@gleanerjm.com