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Yanique's Quest; Striking a balance

Published:Monday | December 29, 2014 | 12:00 AM

Sometimes relationships and friendships fail because they become one-sided. Women (including myself) are sometimes quick to point out the shortcomings of the man, but fail to evaluate our own shortcomings. They expect to receive, but often fail to give because they consider themselves the 'prize', and the man should do all the fishing.

We need to start thinking of our relationships like a bank account. If everyday you stop by the ATM and do a withdrawal and fail to make a deposit, your bank account will eventually be depleted. There has to be a balance between your withdrawals and deposits, and it's the same thing with relationships. You can't expect to always be on the receiving end, but must become the benefactor at some point to create that perfect balance.

Dinner Date

Over the last two months, Jason had been going above and beyond to make my days extra special, and I wanted to do something for him but I wasn't sure what. I knew it had to be something creative and different because this was a man that could afford to purchase almost anything he wanted.

I finally decided that instead of buying something, I was going to use my natural talents and prepare him a home-cooked meal. I wanted there to be an element of 'wow'. So I knew I had to be very creative with whatever I decided to prepare. I was feeling so appreciated, and I wanted him to experience that feeling too.

I finally figured out what I was going to do. My home-cooked meal would not only be prepared at my home, but would be of dishes from his home country. I got cracking on Google trying to find recipes of dishes that were as important to his culture as ackee and saltfish was to ours. It was easy to find some great recipes, but the problem began when I went to the supermarket. It was quite challenging locating the vegetables and spices that I needed to make the dishes authentic, and it took me out of parish to finally locate all I needed.

I emailed Jason an invitation and told him to RSVP by a certain time, and he quickly responded that he couldn't wait.

I woke up early the Saturday morning and started getting everything together. Our dinner was scheduled for 7 p.m, but I wanted to be finished early just in case it didn't turn out the way it should. I had faith in my cooking skills, along with YouTube, but this was my first time preparing these dishes, and I wanted it to be perfect, especially since I had no plan B.

I finished cooking around 5 p.m., and when Jason called to say he was on his way, I was almost ready. Table set, candles lit, music set and the food smelt delicious. I was both anxious and nervous and had to keep telling myself to relax.

all's well that ends well

When Jason arrived, he was quite surprised by the setting. When I presented him with the menu, he smiled and said, "You have been busy." He hasn't been home in a while so, needless to say, he was in his element. I had never experienced a dish from his country before, so he was the one that explained to me the story behind each dish and the proper way to eat it. It was quite an enjoyable dining experience, and I was quite elated to see that everything had turned out well.

After dinner, we sat down to talk and this time he was the one to let me know how much he appreciated the thought that I had put into our dinner. He felt as if he was home, and I was glad to hear that. That had been my mission and I had succeeded. Jason said it wasn't the first time that a woman had invited him over to dinner, but it was the first time that the meal prepared was for him. It was always Jamaican food, which he could purchase anywhere, but no one had offered him a taste of his home.

I knew I was blushing and when he told me I was no ordinary woman, I was quite over the moon. Well, Yanique wasn't an ordinary woman and he would do well to remember that. I knew the importance of making a deposit into our relationship if I wanted it to continue growing, and I wasn't going to sit idly by just making withdrawals.

I knew the importance of making a deposit into our relationship ... .