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50 Shades of BDSM

Published:Monday | February 23, 2015 | 12:00 AM
Contributed photo Dakota Johnson (left) and Jamie Dornan in the film 'Fifty Shades of Grey'.
In this image released by Universal Pictures and Focus Features, Dakota Johnson, left, and Jamie Dornan appear in a scene from "Fifty Shades of Grey." The film is getting a big thumbs-down from religious and other groups who say it’s degrading to women and endorses sexual violence. One social media campaign is encouraging movie-goers to instead give their ticket and popcorn money to women’s shelters. Author EL James, who wrote the erotic trilogy that launched the film, has heard the backlash and says the critics have it all wrong. She says no woman wants to read about abuse, and that everything that happens is safe and consensual.
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"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but chains and whips excite me."

- Rihanna

 

50 Shades of Grey opened the minds of audience locally and internationally to a whole new world of bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism (BDSM), exploring the roles of the dominant and the submissive, with whips, chains, blindfolds, ties, ropes, and cable chords in-between - the sheets that is. While the movie went on to shed some light on the painful aspect of the unique relationship of the main characters, we would much rather focus on the pleasurable features of the erotic union.

For this Men's Edition of the Flair, we asked a few gents whether or not they were curious enough to tie up a woman into submission or use any other form of BDSM to its satisfying advantage when it comes to their lady love. Here is what they had to say.

1 If she is into that type of stuff then sure, but I am not into that sort of thing on my own.

- A.H., 24, single

 

2 Absolutely! I am into anything that she wants - as long as it is being done to her, not me. I will tie her up with rope or even barbwire. I will beat the hell out of her even, but she is not going to do any of that to me. Sorry.

- C.R., 28, it's complicated

3 I've been into everything. I love being dominated by a bigger and stronger woman, but I will only do so as long as she is my girlfriend; trust is a must.

- M.P., 25, in a relationship

 

4 My mother taught me discipline as a child, so I don't need anymore. As a man, I can exercise strength and control, but I won't go overboard. Yes to using handcuff and tying up, all within reason. It helps a woman to focus on the receiving.

- M.R., 30, in a relationship

5 Yes I would. Women love that. And it's our way of getting back at them. It's the one time we can call them anything we want - sexual reparations. Pull her hair and choke her for all the stupid hoops she makes me jump through. Some of them actually like that, by the way.

- P.T., 32, single

6 If she wants to be tied up or down, then, sure, I will more than assist, but I am not making her tie me up. If she wants me to spank her for being a bad girl and to inflict some amount of bodily pain, I can do that as well, but we will have to sign some contract saying that is in fact the case (I am not going to jail for abuse).

- R.P., 35, single

 

7 I don't plan for sex I make it happen. The positions I might have her doing happen along the way and a little submission may be included. Her body is mine when having sex, so I call it mine as she is sharing with me during that time. I always take charge and play with her body, pinning her down or putting her in places so she can't move, so what I engage in is beyond the cuffs, chains and rope. I take control and do the tying up myself.

- O.P., 34, single

 

8 I don't mind spicing things up, playing police and thief (cops and robbers), blindfolding her or handcuffing her, but stepping it up to '50 Shades', I don't know about that. I draw the line when it seems too far-fetched, like having her hang upside down, having her head in water, or with two Doberman dogs circling her, and she would then want me to have my way with her. She would be on her own.

- D.R., 27, single

 

9 I have absolutely zero interest in any of that '50 Shades' or BDSM. I don't need leather and whips to make her submit.

- W.G., 31, married

 

10 I have practised BDSM to some extent, tying women down and using toys on them as well. It all depends on how far she is willing to go.

- T.S., 28, single

 

11 I have done it before. You would be surprised how many girls like being choked, slapped, tied up, and that rough kind of stuff. Candle wax, blindfolds, vibrators, all while playing my manly part is guaranteed to make her have the experience of a lifetime.

- D.T., 25, single

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