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Love yourselves, flaws and all

Published:Monday | June 29, 2015 | 12:00 AM
Nicki Minaj

I get it - sometimes societal expectations and demands on us can be very unrealistic. And, most times, it is very difficult for us to live up to these preposterous standards. This is quite evident in women, and the extent to which some are going to enhance their appearances to fit in.

Case in point, this new eyebrow craze that has rendered some women looking like complete clowns. So ridiculous is this new trend that fake eyebrows are now in high demand. I mean, seriously, fake eyebrows?!

I am never one to judge women and how they seek to adorn themselves in a bid to attract us, but at some point, we must say enough is enough.

Think about it, you meet a woman, you sacrifice and go by her 90-day rule and then you finally take her home. But, when you wake up the next morning, you find a complete stranger lying in bed beside you. Her lips are different, her eye colour is not the same, her eyebrows are absent, those high cheekbones don't exist, and her figure has been completely transformed.

This is deception and at the rate at which some women are able to alter their appearance, some should be charged for perpetrating fraud. Yes, fraud! Because, if you deliberately misrepresent who you are in order to get into my bed, then, I must have genuine grounds on which to bring a case against you for concealing a large part of your identity - your physical appearance.

On the other hand, I do understand the complexities and nuances that have led many women to believe it is necessary for them to become human transformers.

While, I don't think it is fair for a woman to trick a man into believing that her statuesque 34-24-34 vitals are all-natural and not courtesy of the latest Victoria Secret push-up bra, waist-trainer and butt-pads, I am also cognisant of the pressures which cause them to engage in these acts of deception.

From the perfectly airbrushed photos of supermodels in magazines to the one-dimensional girls thrown in music videos, many women are now of the opinion that their natural looks are no longer adequate. In the quest to be the hottest thing, these girls have resorted to spending large sums to acquire the ultimate body and look, whatever those may be.

I think it is bizarre what we are doing to our women by allowing them to believe that beauty begins and ends with the likes of supermodels like Gisele Bundchen, Tyra Banks, or the likes of Kim Kardashian, Rihanna, or Nicki Minaj (with all the alleged plastic surgeries she has done).

I am not against plastic surgery or altering one's appearance, because many of us do it, men included. But, I believe it is kind of disconcerting for one to alter his or her appearance just to impress others. If it's something you genuinely want to do for your own self then, by all means, go ahead. However, do not spend all this money and lose yourself in the process just to find a man or compete with the girl next door. The most important thing is looking in the mirror and owning your own natural beauty, flaws and all.