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What would you do: Three’s Company or a Crowd?

Published:Monday | September 28, 2015 | 12:00 AMKrysta Anderson

It’s week two of ‘What would you do’ and boy, do we have a treat for you! In honouring the beaus – aspiring or experienced – for our Men’s Edition, the Flair decided to tackle the issue of ‘sanctioned infidelity’, and asked a few of our male readers this question: what would you do if, for your birthday, your girlfriend offers you a threesome with her female best friend? Would you accept the gift with open arms, ponder the thought (what trick does she have up her sleeve?), or would you flat out say no, making a new request to have only her for your special day? What would you do? Here’s what they had to say:


As tempting as that would be, especially if her friend is hot, I'm not doing it. They would have to hold me down or something. I've read too many things about threesomes going horribly wrong. I need to be more adventurous but not that much.

- D.K. 34, single.

I will now think that I have a freaky girlfriend if I didn't know before. I wouldn't run into it, though, I would just play along to try and find out if it's a prank or if she's trying to find out if I have eyes on her friend. That is if she didn't appear to be that kind of person in the first place.

- A.S, 28, in a relationship

Well, I am incapable of thinking of my girlfriend's best friend in that manner, even if it is for sex. A guy has to set some standards, but assuming that I could think of her that way, I would still say no. Letting in a third party always opens up a can of worms. Either my girlfriend develops sexual feelings for her friend or I develop feelings for her friend. So no, I would not.

- C.B. 26, committed

Well, I would accept the offer, but I would be shocked by the gift because most women do that to test a man, to see his intentions.. So I would say yes and when I see her and the woman in front of me getting it on and they ask me to join in, only then would I believe her and participate.

-A.M. 35, married

A man like me wouldn't refuse. As a matter of fact, I would love her more for doing that. I would play along like I wasn't into it at first, because if you get too excited, they may believe you wanted to cheat the whole time, or you are cheating.

- F.S, 27, in a relationship

I would politely decline. I've been in this game a while now and I know, personally, how threesomes destroy relationships. So once I rate my girl, then she is the only one I'll defend. I don't need to bring anyone else into our bedroom, I'm on her team.

I would first try to find out if she is testing my loyalty, then act like I don't want it, while saying only if she wanted to. I would only do it if that's what she wanted.

Maybe back then, when I was shallow, I would say yes. But the older I get, the more I realise that certain things are just a recipe for disaster in a relationship: a threesome is one of them.

All of us would have to be checked, condoms must be used. And as long as it's between us only, then yes, I don't see why not.

- A.S. 30, single

It's a trick: I'd say "Hell no" and run far, far, far away. My girlfriend isn't into that anyway, and while it is a fantasy of mine, I wouldn't do it because when another woman joins the party of two, no matter the invitation, it almost never ends well.

- G.W, 27, in a relationship