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Love Corner: Love always protects

Published:Monday | October 19, 2015 | 10:00 AM

Love always protects.

-1 Corinthians 13:7

Deciding what battles to fight can be a bit of a challenge. However, there are some battles you should be more than willing to fight. These are battles that pertain to protecting your partner.

Love corner continues to explore what love is, and this week we remind you that love always protects.

Being with the love of your life doesn't mean you will always be happy. Relationships are made up of joy, sadness, successes and failures and the last thing you want is for it to be like a battlefield.

There are always going to be attractive things and people that will conspire to destroy your relationship unless you know how to ward them off. They are trying to undermine your love and appreciation for one another. Others try to lure your heart away from your partner with unhealthy fantasies and unrealistic comparisons. It's a battle you must wage to protect your relationship - making love put an armour around you and pick up a sword to defend its own. Your partner and your marriage need your constant protection from things like:

The negative effects of the Internet, television and work schedules: These can bring in destructive content and drain away precious hours from your family. You can't protect your home when you are not there, or when you are disconnected from your relationship. Protect your relationship from harmful influences and avoid allowing certain habits to poison your home. Make time for your love. You have to fight to keep balance right.

Unhealthy relationships: Anyone who undermines your relationship does not deserve to be given the title of 'friend'. You should spend as little time as possible with such persons. And certainly you must be on guard at all times from opposite-sex relationships at work, the gym, or even church that can draw you away emotionally away from the love of your life.

Parasites: A parasite is anything that latches on to you or your partner and sucks the life out of your relationship - whether they come in the form of an addiction like gambling, drugs, or pornography. It promises pleasure but grows like a disease and consumes more and more of your thoughts, time, and money. Watch out for them. They steal away your loyalty and heart from those you love. Marriages rarely survive if parasites are present. If you love your partner, you must destroy any addiction that has your heart. If you don't, it will destroy you.

Embarrassment: Everyone deals with some level of inferiority and weakness. And because marriage has a way of exposing it all, you need to protect your wife or husband's vulnerability by never speaking negatively about them in public. Their secrets are your secrets (unless, of course, these involve destructive behaviour that is putting you, your children, or your loved ones in grave danger). Generally speaking, love hides the faults of others. It covers their shame.

Wives: Wives do your part in helping your husband feel strong. You have a role as protector in your marriage. You must guard your heart from being led away through novels, magazines, and other forms of entertainment that blur your perception of reality and put unfair expectations on your husband.

"The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tears it down with her own hands." (Proverbs 14:1).

Men: Men, you are the head of your home. You are the one responsible before God for guarding the gate and standing your ground against anything that would threaten your wife or marriage. This is a big assignment. It requires a heart of courage and a head for preemptive action. Jesus said, "If the head of the house had known at what time of the night the thief was coming, he would have been on the alert and would not have allowed his house to be broken into." (Matthew 24:43). This role is yours. Take it seriously.

Husbands and wives: Husbands and wives, remove anything that is hindering your relationship, any addiction or influence that is stealing your affections and turning your heart away from your spouse.

cathyrisden@gleanerjm.com