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Are you wife ready?

Published:Monday | November 9, 2015 | 11:00 AM

Many of us women still hold the notion that marriage is only for us, but there are men who do want to get married at some point; however, there are specific things he looks for before he decides to commit.

Women are not the only ones who have criteria for the ideal man, men have criteria for the ideal woman he wants to marry, too.

Flair shares these strategies you can adopt to help to take your relationship to the next level (if you are dating), and prepare for the 'wife life' if you are still waiting to be found by Mr Right.

Here are 5 things that will make you wife-ready:

 

When you help

 

 

and accept him

 

Spending time getting to know your man will help you find the areas with which he needs help - ask, don't just assume.

Some men may have specific needs, but in general, they need help reaching their goals and dreams and seeing their true potential. They need you to give them insight into people and situations so they aren't taken advantage of. They also need you to bring your strengths, gifts, talents, and abilities to the relationship to cover their own weaknesses.

Please note that men don't have it all together. Behind all that swag, he has insecurities, weaknesses and fears, just like you. Don't assume that his rough and tough exterior means he is invincible. He needs your help. Your job is to be wise enough to know how to help him without making him feel like a failure.

 

When you listen to him

 

Don't assume that you partner doesn't need to be heard because he is a man of few words. Watch his body language. He's communicating something to you all the time.

Bear in mind that when your man does talk, you need to listen without judging, inserting your opinion, correcting him, or anticipating what he is about to say. It may be hard to hear, but you should be honoured that he trusts you enough to share his feelings with you.

 

When you catch him doing something good

 

Move away from the culture that is steeped in criticism and judgement, and appreciate when your man is really trying to please you. Sometimes, in his mind, nothing he does is good enough. That's because we rarely focus on what people do well.

It's rare for someone to tell you what you did well, but everybody loves to be appreciated, and your man especially wants your encouragement.

 

Be confident

 

A good man loves a confident woman. Confidence and sexiness go hand in hand.

A man knows that a woman who doesn't know her own worth will quickly become a needy woman. When you are confident, he knows he won't have to spend all his time trying to make you feel good about yourself. Yes, he will appreciate you and help you grow; and yes, he knows you are not perfect and will need him to cover your weaknesses.

 

Respect him

 

Respect is one way a man gives and receives love, and when he feels respected, he feels like he is honoured and loved by his woman.

Avoid focusing on your needs. Instead, focus on meeting his. He will find it easier to focus on your needs thereafter.

The point is, when you respect your man, you don't focus on his shortcomings. You focus on the things he does right, and you inspire him to be a better man through open and honest communication.

cathy.risden@gleanerjm.com