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How To Get Rid of Your Stalker Ex-Girlfriend

Published:Monday | January 25, 2016 | 1:00 AMKrysta Anderson

American screenwriter, director, producer, comic book author, and composer Joss Whedon once said, "There's a fine line between support and stalking, and let's all stay on the right side of that."

Now fellas, if your ex-girlfriend is not supporting your stance on the break-up, and has chosen to instead stalk you, then Houston, you have a problem. A stalker can interrupt your day-to-day activities, and potentially harm any hopes of you coping and moving on in the long run.

So, here are a few suggestions of how to get rid of her:

1 Change your cell number and passwords to anything she might have had or possibly could have. She shouldn't have any access to you in any shape or form, because she could use anything against you down the line.

2 If it is that you are still in contact with her, block her immediately and refrain from talking with or messaging her. If you see her, you can't avoid her, so be nice. But be careful. You might feel that you are appeasing the situation: you may be adding fuel to the fire, and giving her hope that you are still interested and that there is still hope for the relationship.

3 She may present a desperate situation and turn to you for help - a classic case of the damsel in distress. Don't fall for it. But if you can't live with the fact that you might have abandoned her and she could die, call for backup, preferably your boys, and let someone close to you know exactly where you will be going.

4 If that doesn't work, you could try this: ditch that bad-boy image you are portraying, flip the script, and see how she reacts. Chances are, she may be in love with the old you and not even like the new you.

5 Don't be afraid to report it. She might seem harmless to others, but you know her well. After all, you were once with her, and can tell what she is capable of. If she is a stalker, then she may be capable of more than you think. So keep track of all that she has been doing and have a record of it. It could end in your favour in the long run. If it is that extreme, and you can get a restraining order, don't hesitate to do so. You will have to present history, so you might have to 'restalk' in order to catch the stalker and present info to the authorities. Take matters into your own hands. It's better to be safe than to be sorry.

6 Don't introduce a new girlfriend into the situation. It's bad enough that you have to deal with this, and, yes, you want to move on, but let your potential significant other know your current situation and see if she is literally a 'ride-or-die' chick.

7 If you live close to her and you are able to move away, then do so without leaving a trace. That way, you are not there for viewing pleasure and she isn't physically being a pain.

8 Inform those close to you about the 'situationship' that has been created. She may try to get to you through friends and family members. Be honest and upfront with them from early, before she gets to them first, before getting to you.

9 If you are still sleeping with your stalker ex-girlfriend, please desist from doing so. The fact that a volcano is dormant doesn't mean it can't erupt at any given time.

krysta.anderson@gleanerjm.com