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Kelly's World: Being comfortable in one's own skin

Published:Monday | May 2, 2016 | 5:00 AM

"We're all self conscious I'm just the first to admit it." You know I'm really losing what marbles I have left when I'm quoting Kanye West.

Truth is, being self-conscious and/or having a fragile sel-image are two things that if you don't sort them out quickly, might end you up on the front page of the daily tabloid. And it may not be the most uplifting story, if you get what I'm saying. Some humans figure it out not too long after they're born, others take a little time. And yet, there are others who from that first scream when the cold air bite dem outside the womb, to that last breath, they never quite come to terms with who they are.

 

I DON'T MIND IT

 

Now I've always believed that I'm not cute or handsome. Don't get me wrong, I'm not Shrek or Quasimodo, but I'm not Idris Elba or Trey Songz either. And I don't think there's anything necessarily wrong with thinking that way. As long as I don't wish that I looked like those guys. Oh wait, I think I do. Hmm. Oh well, I don't believe in plastic surgery, and couldn't afford it even if I did. The rest of my body I can control. I may never be mistaken for Asafa Powell, but with the right diet and exercise, I can be ripped. But that's going to require hard work, and quite frankly, I wonder if it's worth the trouble. See, to get that body, I basically have to stop doing and eating 90 per cent of what I'm currently doing and eating. That's no fun! Over time, I've come to realise that I don't mind the slightly pudgy look. A friend recently opined "men must have guts".

I will say this though, one thing I'm kinda sensitive about is my height. One day, a beggar asked "Short man, you nuh have even $5?" Maybe I was in a bad mood that afternoon (highly likely, knowing my temperament) but I was truly offended. People rib me about many things (what can I say? I have plenty of material). But mi did honestly vex at the thought that I was 'height deprived'. Granted, being tall has its disadvantages. But I've always thought I was average height. Dependent on what index you're using, the average Jamaican man is five feet, seven and three-quarter inches. I'm just about five foot seven, aka short! Oh well. I'll make up for my 'shortcomings' with my wit. Except there will always be persons who are more witty and more intelligent.

In this respect, the Desiderata is absolutely right. "If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself." Now that's a quote to follow. Somehow, those who are not yet at that stage of thinking need to get there. Especially as social media keeps flashing images of 'perfect' lives and bodies. May we all, in some way, be comfortable in our own skin. Later.

- Link me at daviot.kelly@gleanerjm.com