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Christian romance: How we did it

Published:Monday | June 20, 2016 | 12:00 AMKrysta Anderson
Brian Cuff and his beautiful bride on their wedding day.
Kevin Powell and his wife Marsha.

In one's quest to seek and follow Christ, they often aspire to find a partner. For many, their prayers are delightfully answered, while for others, it's easier said than done.

Flair spoke to two couples now married, who shared their unique journey which drew them closer in faith and in love.


The Powells


Kevin Powell told Flair that it was not very difficult dating his wife Marsha. "We both have similar interests and areas of commonality. This made it easier for us to relate to each other and our goals were aligned for the most part. We both sang on the choir and enjoyed our singing ministry so we made a habit to sing together when we would go dates and shared our vision of one day doing an album together."

In their courting stages, they went out at least once a week, and took other opportunities like church and choir outings to bond and see how to really operate and act around each other.

He admitted that while they shared common interests, they did experience personality clashes, which would throw off any typical couple, let alone a Christian one.

"I am loud and extroverted and she is quiet and reserved. I'm a pragmatist and she tends to be idealistic. She is neat and tidy while I'm a lazy, untidy blob. And then she had the added pressure of dealing with my disability (walking with crutches) - something we had to confront and discuss openly. But then we realised that we can teach and learn from each other," he said.


Easing the tension


When it came to sexual tension, Powell confessed that the closer they got to their wedding, the stronger the temptation was to give in to the desires of the flesh. "But we resisted these tempting moments by not putting ourselves in compromising situations like being alone in an empty house, and we set boundaries, and one of us would remind the other that it was never appropriate to yield to the flesh," he added.

After being close friends for about two years and a couple for one, they made it official and said 'I do'.


The Cuffs


According to Cuff, dating a fellow Christian made things much easier than he thought, primarily because they were not only Christians, but they shared the same faith (Apostolic). "We shared much of the same values and standards, which made us compatible in many aspects. There weren't any clashes or pressures to do things or go places that weren't in line with what I stood for. We enjoyed clean and fun entertainment, which was priceless in my book."

The two met at work and were always around each other, so there wasn't an urgent need to always go out on a date. "A movie here and there, an occasional trip to Devon House, but mostly a great date for us was watching our favourite series on television after work. Our dates became more frequent closer to when we got engaged, and during the period leading up to our wedding."

The difficulty, he said, came in resisting sensual temptation, but he noted that they got through it. "We both knew the lines we didn't/shouldn't cross, and stood our ground individually and as a couple. We also eliminated temptation by not being alone in secluded places. A lot of times, outings included my brother or other friends. It helped to keep our actions in check."

But one obstacle for them was keeping their relationship under wraps. "Because we worked together, and in the same department, doing this (keeping the relationship a secret) was a full-time job, and it was hard. Always having to remember to remain professional, not being able to just go out together as we would like, not practising public displays of affection. It was important to us to keep our relationship as private as possible, so as challenging as it was, we did our best."

Four years later, he asked the love of his life to marry him and they've lived happily ever after.