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Heights of Deception

Published:Monday | August 22, 2016 | 8:00 AM

Some say you will never know the value of a good relationship until you get your heart broken. However, some heartbreaks are better not felt. Our readers shared their heartbreak tales that are almost too much to bear.

I had known this woman for a few years and was in love. I thought I knew her and that we shared the same values, but the truth was, I did not know her at all. We got married and she knew that I wanted children, but she never told me that she had a hysterectomy. For years, we tried to conceive, without her telling me the truth. I was devastated when I found out. Of course, I ended the marriage. I felt as if I had been married to a stranger.

- T.F., 40*

I thought he was the love of my life - our bond was that strong. I believed him when he told me that he had a sugar mama, whom he had no feelings for but needed because he needed the financial support. I saw how he struggled in school because of his financial struggles, so not only did I accept it, but I believed that I was his number one.

One night, as my friends and I attended a college party, I saw my 'lover boy' waltz in with his 'sugar mama' all wrapped up in his arms.

When he saw me, I thought he would have come over, but unfortunately, that was not the case. He pretended as if he didn't see me and partied the whole night without acknowledging me. This was the height of deceit, but after, he gave me some silly excuse, and I went right back to him. I eventually left, and I am so happy I got out of that dangerous relationship.

- A.K., 24*

I had a one-night stand with a woman that I thought was my friend. We had unprotected sex, so when she told me that she was pregnant, I knew that it was possible. For months, she went to the doctor and brought back sonograms showing me the baby, but she never allowed me to go to the doctor with her.

I found this strange, so one day I insisted that we go together. It turned out she was never pregnant. I had invested in a child that never existed.

- T.G., 32

I had been in what I thought was a committed relationship for several years, until one day I received a call from a young woman who told me that my boyfriend was also hers.

They had been dating for quite a while and even lived together. Of course, he denied it to both of us that he was dating the other. We exchanged screenshots of messages that proved that he had been in a relationship with both of us. I still cannot understand how he balanced the two.

I blocked him from every mode of contact. I think that was the worst form of deception, and I have no intention of making myself open to that level of hurt and pain ever again.

- N.B., 30