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Live life on purpose - four tips to get you started

Published:Monday | September 19, 2016 | 12:00 AMKaysha Franklin

Four tips to get you started

It seems like everyone these days is talking about 'living life on purpose'; or maybe it just seems that way now that I'm more plugged in.

What I know, however, from several conversations with different persons, is that many of us are clueless about how to start doing this. So, as we prepare to meet up in Negril at the end of the month for our retreat, I've decided to share four tips which have helped me on my own journey, with the hope that you will find them helpful as well.


Identify where you are


Identify where you are in this moment and be honest about it. Now is not the time for storytelling or embellishing. In order to really get where you're going, you've got to take stock of where you are in an honest way. When you make an honest assessment, don't despair if where you want to get seems far away. Being clear on your starting point is the very first step.

Once you identify where you are, the next step is to determine where you want to go. This leads us to my second tip.


Ask yourself some guiding questions


My favourite guiding question is: 'What would you do if you had no fear?' And I'll tell you why. Fear is easily one of the most debilitating emotions one can experience. It robs persons of dreams and their real potential to 'magic make' (my term for creating endless possibilities for yourself), and has the ability to cripple you to the extent that you may not even be willing to take the first step. If you are able to move past the stronghold fear often places on the best of us and refuse to allow it to stop you from moving forward, you are often able to see those things which set your soul on fire and which invariably are linked to living your most purposeful, passionate life.

Another one of my favourite guiding questions is: 'What does my perfect day look like?' When you come up with the answer, begin the process of connecting the dots from your current life to your best life. You may have to go back to school, save more money, put in longer hours at work or some other thing. Whatever you have to do, do it! Come up with a plan. Set realistic and measurable goals to keep you on track and get going, one step at a time. If something comes up which throws you off track, get back up and go again. Life has a way of being unpredictable, and living your most purposeful life often has everything to do with how you bounce back from unplanned things.


Be still and know


We live in a world where persons are rarely still. The constant need to multitask and the different types of technology vying for our attention and time make being still almost impossible. Yet I am convinced, from my own experience, that truth comes most clearly in stillness. For clarification, stillness, for me, means silence. When you become comfortable with stillness/silence, you learn how to hone your intuitive sense and become more keenly aware of the answers which come to you. As you await your next step(s) to become clear, know, without a shadow of a doubt, that God or whichever higher power you believe in will always show up right on time, and that all great things are coming your way. You've got to know this with every part of your being and just trust the process.


Stop waiting on the perfect time


One of my favourite quotes comes from actor Hugh Laurie, and it is:

"It's a terrible thing, I think, in life to wait until you're ready. I have this feeling now that actually no one is ever ready to do anything. There is almost no such thing as ready. There is only now. And you may as well do it now. Generally speaking, now is as good a time as any."

I love it because it is so true. I also believe that no one is ever really ready to do anything, but at some point, if you are determined to live your most purposeful life, you are going to have to jump off that cliff and trust that your parachute will open and you will land safely. And if you don't, that you will learn how to jump better the next time.

Life is a series of taking measured risks and trusting that everything will fall into place. I am not advocating reckless behaviour like 'let me leave my job today and trust I win the lotto tomorrow'. I am suggesting that you do not get caught in the trap of waiting for the perfect time, situation, circumstance or condition(s) before you start something new, because if you do, you will never start anything, and that's really no way to live.

If this article applies to you, I'm encouraging you to get cracking, and wish you good luck on your journey to living a more purposeful life. If it doesn't, congratulations! That's truly amazing! Continue to share your gifts with the world and inspire others to do the same along the way. The world needs more persons who wake up each day fully expressed and ready to share their life, love, gifts and talents with others.

• Kaysha is founder of Unapologetically WOMEN and co-host of Soulful Oasis All-Inclusive retreat. For more tips and tools on living life on purpose join UW for their retreat in Negril where they will be dealing with this theme along with 'Celebrating all that we are as Women' and 'Releasing the Old, Embracing the New'.

Contact her at kaysha@unapologeticallywomen or for more details.