Dynamic Lifestyle | New year's anti-resolution solution
Each year, millions of people create some sort of New Year's resolution. Whether it's getting in shape, paying off debt, quitting smoking, or even being a nicer person. The problem is, the average new year's resolution is broken and forgotten by the time the last of the confetti is cleaned up.
Though few people find success in setting and keeping resolutions, how about something different to change this year?
- Making anti-resolutions.
- Letting go of past mistakes and grievances.
- Practising self-compassion.
- Meditating on what's good in life.
One of the most popular New Year's resolutions is to lose weight. Most people start a radical diet or cut back on junk food only to find themselves caught up in cravings for what they are depriving themselves of. Suppose, instead, people would make the anti-resolution to try different, healthier foods or pick up a new hobby that keeps them moving?
There is an amazing variety of healthy foods to choose from. Search recipe sites and magazines to find easy, healthy recipes. Or what about taking up a new hobby, like biking or long walks, maybe with your partner?
Instead of putting effort into breaking a bad behaviour, put effort into creating a new, healthy habit. This makes it easier to build a new lifestyle without the guilt and shame of breaking resolutions.
LET GO OF THE PAST
One of the reasons why we can't move on and change our lives is that we refuse to let go of our past mistakes and failures. Let go of the old to move on to the new. God told the Israelites in Isaiah 43:18, "Forget the former things: do not dwell on the past." Holding on to your past mistakes only keeps you focused on the past. It's time to move on. You can't move forward while you are looking back.
The Yoga Sutra 1.33 teaches compassion, stating, "We are to have level-headedness for those who make mistakes." We should have the same compassion for ourselves - after all, we are only human. We sometimes judge ourselves more harshly than others. This puts us in a vicious cycle of trying to change, failing, beating ourselves up and then going back to the old habit because it was easier.
The golden rule according to most world religion is, "love your neighbour as yourself", but you can't love your neighbour as yourself if you don't love yourself. Acknowledge that you deserve health and happiness. Recognise the suffering that the habit you are trying to change is causing. Celebrate any positive action you have taken to support your change. If you are feeling bad about any setbacks, remind yourself that you are human, and mistakes are an important part of the path to change. Remember the fable of the tortoise and the hare. The race doesn't belong to the fastest runner, but goes to the one with patience and perseverance.
MEDITATE ON WHAT'S GOOD
Concentrate on the good and positive things about your life. Paul says in Philippians 4:8, "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable - if anything is excellent or praiseworthy - think about such things."
Little over a year ago I hurt my knee. I was in terrible pain. When I decided to resume running, the pain was unbearable. About halfway through the Miami Marathon three months after my injury, I almost burst into tears because I feared I would have had to stop. I decided to concentrate on the finish and what it would mean to complete my first marathon.
That kept me going all the way through. I went home ecstatic, and my doctor called me crazy, but was also amazed at what I was able to achieve. If I had only concentrated on the things I couldn't do, I would have given up and gone home, and my knee would probably have taken a lot longer to heal.
Let's start this new year, the new week, this new day, with a positive outlook. Wake up each morning being thankful for who you are, and what you can do. Don't concentrate on the negative. Put the past behind you each and every morning. Each day has new possibilities and new opportunities for change. Let go of the things that are holding you down. Find new things that build you up. Who needs more broken resolutions? What we need are real solutions to create change in our lives.
That's it for this week! Hope you can join me for a killer Burn 90 session at the Dynamic Lifestyle Training Studio, 4 Hillcrest Avenue, Kingston 6. To join our weekly group runs, email us at email@example.com.
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- Patrice J. White is a certified fitness, lifestyle, and transformation coach, founder and president of the Sonic Steppers Running Club. Email:firstname.lastname@example.org; Instagram: @dynamiclifestyle ja; Twitter @patricejwhite; Facebook @dynamic lifestyle training studio; Give her a call at 876-GETTFIT (876-438-8348).