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Heated summer flings

Published:Monday | July 10, 2017 | 7:00 AMRocheda Bartley

Summer is on! With only days in the season, the scorching heat and sometimes unbearable long days are no excuses for dismissing a good summer relationship. Summer flings are incredibly exciting, mostly drama free and very tempting. It's true, when the sun goes down at the end of summer the magical bliss usually goes with it but it's an extraordinary time. If you've never had one, here's what you need to know.

 

WHY HAVE A SUMMER FLING?

 

A little love in the summer is what some of us yearn for. After all, it is the longest break of the year, a lot of persons are free and are oftentimes feeling adventurous.

It's the 'lazy days' and you might want to "hang out with a new-found friend, have a lustful relationship with frequent and adventurous sex, or visit a different community or country with plans to start a short-term sexual relationship", relationship specialist and sexologist Sidney McGill said.

You know, it's daring but sometimes you just need to have a little fun.

Anyone can decide to have a mind-blowing summer fling, even teenagers. It doesn't have to be sexual but, "People with ADD (attention deficit disorder), mood problems or are just feeling lonely tend to be more prone to summer sexual flings," McGill said.

 

IT IS A GREAT TIME

 

Falling in love in the summer is easy and you could fall for anyone. Rochelle Knight spoke with Flair about her past summer fling.

"We knew each other long before so we weren't strangers; it wasn't weird. It's no different than having a real boyfriend. It was great ... just having someone to hang out with and talk to," Knight boasted.

 

ADVANTAGES

 

Summer flings are dicey, but they sure do have benefits. As McGill told Flair, it is an opening to "meet and develop relationships that can be useful to you in the future. Having a positive regard for each other makes life worth living even during hardships and financial assistance, especially if the person lives abroad and can afford to help out". And who knows, it could become the real thing.

 

DISADVANTAGES

 

You'll never find a coin with only one side; so entering a summer fling imagining only its benefits is risky. It's not about careless sex, always be wary of "sexually transmitted diseases. Maintaining long-distance relationships, depending on the condition of your current intimate relationship [summer fling] can cause conflicts with your [long-term] partner", McGill warns.

 

DOS AND DON'TS

 

So if you have decided it's time to have a thrilling summer fling, here's what McGill advises.

- Always be clear about your intentions.

- Don't get involved with someone that you would normally be ashamed to be with.

 You are not desperate, just adventurous.

- If you are already in a committed relationship, getting involved in a summer fling can cause more harm than good. It can complicate things.