Thu | Nov 15, 2018

The hook-up

Published:Monday | January 22, 2018 | 12:00 AM

We've all heard the phrase before: this person or that one has 'the hook-up'. But the term has been used in a different light, or rather low lights or no lights at all, for that matter. So, in this week's Flair, let's take a ride on the naughty side and explore the ins and outs of hooking up.


What is a hook-up?


A hook-up can be defined in a variety of ways. It has been described as engaging in any sexually suggestive activity with someone like kissing, touching, or maybe more. It has even been used as a code for 'screwing around' with another person or each other, without sounding serious in the process. So picture not dating, but not exactly being involved in casual sex either.


Who do you hook-up with?


It depends on the person. Hooking up with a stranger is not that uncommon, but others have done so with persons they are familiar with, like acquaintances, just to avoid any conflict. The friend with benefits has also made the list, in that there's a history, but an understanding. The same thing can be said for a reliable ex, you know, the one you broke up with because things would never work out, but he or she knows how to effectively get the job done. Then there are the potential lovers. How will you know if you don't go, right?


Where do you hook up?


A hook-up can happen just about anywhere! Location is not of high value. It's all about convenience. As a matter of fact, it has been said that the greater the risk, the greater the excitement, and the greater the outcome, so be innovative and get creative.


When do you engage in the hook-up?


It is highly recommended that you hook up with someone when you're not in a relationship, but who am I to spoil the fun?


Why do you hook up?


People will hook up for several reasons. Maybe out of sheer boredom with their partners or themselves. If it is something new, then it might be that you have interest in another but it hasn't been expressed, so why not hook up to see if things can go any further? Of course, the factor of availability or lack thereof often comes into play, that is, on the wings of love, you can't afford or you can't choose to travel first-class, so you sit comfortably in coach via window seat and enjoy the view until it's time for landing.


How do you go about hooking up?


Hooking up shouldn't be hit or miss. It has to start from some form of interaction, say flirting. That way, the conversation shifts to down under or anything remotely associated with it. In that sense, the tone can be set for you both to shift into sultry positions too, because you don't want to just run the risk of staring rejection dead in the face. Also, you will have to the test those waters - to see if it's running. Leave subtle hints of seduction and go in stages see how the target of your physical affections reacts.