Can men have multiple orgasms?
Because of what is called the 'refractory period', it is impossible for men to have multiple ejaculatory orgasms. However, experts believe that with the right technique, men can experience several non-ejaculatory orgasms in one lovemaking session.
Women, on the other hand, don't have these problems. The fairer sex was practically made to have multiple orgasms in one session.
In fact, one Denmark woman holds the world record for reportedly having 222 orgasms in one session. In a controlled setting, doctors William Hartman and Marilyn Fithian recorded 134 female orgasms within a single hour. That is a little over two orgasms per minute. It has been proven that some women are capable of multiple orgasms even during simple activities as stroking their eyebrow, rubbing their knee, thinking (about an orgasm), or brushing their teeth.
Men just aren't so lucky - although a Danish man is reported to hold the world record for eight orgasms in a single session.
The 'refractory period' is in essence the recovery phase after an orgasm - the period immediately following stimulation during which a nerve or muscle is unresponsive to further stimulation. It can take a man 30 minutes or more before he can physiologically have another ejaculatory orgasm. It is practically impossible for him to do so before that half-hour time lapse.
Although some women also experience a refractory period, their time lapse between orgasms can be as little as two minutes. Some experts believe, however, that some women do not have a refractory period, which allows them the ability to have multiple orgasms in rapid succession. While other studies have shown that after one orgasm, some women do not experience another in the same session, despite further sexual stimulation.
In a recent paper on male ejaculation, Dr Jonathan Stegall, founder and president of the Center for Advanced Medicine in Atlanta, United States, advised that men can reduce the refractory period and achieve closer rounds of sexual pleasure by following some basic rules.
Here are the three main rules:
1. OPTIMAL TESTOSTERONE LEVELS
In order to have firmer erections, shorter refractory periods and much better orgasms, men need optimal testosterone levels.
"Low T is often thought of as an older man's problem, but I see it in a significant portion of men in their 20s, 30s and 40s," noted Stegall.
Even if you have a normal sex drive, he recommends that men get their T-level checked by a specialist. Normal testosterone levels are between 300 and 1,000 nanograms per deciliter of blood.
Signs of low T-levels include fatigue, decreased libido, fat gain, difficulty gaining muscle, mental fogginess, and depression.
If you have very low Ts, hormone-replacement therapy may be necessary. However, if your testosterone levels are less than optimal, you can up them naturally by eating a diet that's high in proteins and fats - the right kinds - by getting at least eight hours of sleep, and by lifting weights three to six times per week.
2. STRENGTHEN PC MUSCLES
Men can learn to induce multiple non-ejaculatory orgasms by doing their own version of Kegel exercises, which strengthens the pelvic floor muscles, giving them the ability to control orgasmic and ejaculatory responses. The pubococcygeus (PC) muscle, which stretches from your pubic bone to your tailbone, is what controls ejaculation. According to sexologist Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright, if you can keep yourself from ejaculating after an orgasm, you'll be more likely to skip the refractory period and orgasm more than once.
To perform Kegel exercises, contract the PC muscle as you would when you control your flow of urine as you are urinating. You can practice Kegels anywhere, for instance, contracting the muscle for 10 seconds while sitting in your car or at your office desk.
3. TRY DIFFERENT POSITIONS
Men can help control their ejaculation and erection by switching up positions during lovemaking. Sex therapist Jane Greer advises, "try having sex in a chair, where she's in the chair and you're on top of her, but still able to stand up and pull out before you ejaculate. That way, you can tighten your muscles right before the point of ejaculation, so you can experience orgasm without ejaculation."
Greer said if you think non-ejaculatory orgasms will feel different from regular orgasms, you're right, so remember to lower your expectations just a little. She said: "You can't expect for each small orgasm to feel like your usual orgasms. They'll be less in intensity, but for some men, having several small orgasms is actually preferable to having one big one."
Of interest, studies show that men orgasm 59 per cent of the time while their partner is screaming in ecstasy, and only two per cent of the time while she is lying quiet and looking bored, like she would rather be anywhere else but here.