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Why men fall asleep after sex

Published:Wednesday | February 24, 2016 | 12:00 AM

Have you ever wondered why after an amazing lovemaking session - or even a not-so-hot one - men are out cold, snoring within minutes after climaxing, while the women are energised and just lie there ready to have an after-sex chat or something?

Well, according to experts, the hormone prolactin is responsible for male post-coital sleepiness. Prolactin suppresses dopamine - a stimulating neurotransmitter that makes you feel awake - and the male body releases it in spades after he has had an orgasm. Women, on the other hand, do not produce nearly as much of the hormone as men do.

Added to the high dosage of prolactin men experience after sex, the 'feel-good' hormone oxytocin also shots up during sex, which can eliminate any stressful thoughts from his mind, making it easier to relax and fall asleep afterward.

Even more, if you have sex with the lights off, you are signalling your body's internal clock that it's time for bed. When that happens, the hormone melatonin ignites the sleep cycle.

And, of course, it's night time and his body is already tired after a full day of hard work ... not to mention the work he had to put in to please you.

So, ladies, it's kinda difficult and unfair to blame him for falling asleep after sex when the hormones prolactin, oxytocin, and melatonin all come together - that's one helluva trifecta that would knock anyone out cold.

What do experts recommend to keep him awake for at least a little chat after sex? Well, make more use of the sex position where he is on top; keep the lights on during sex; and get out of bed once the hot session is over. And let's face it, if you don't want him to fall asleep, then you can't have that after-sex cuddling in bed that you both really enjoy. You really would just be asking for it.

Of course, to leave him fully satisfied, if that is your goal, then turn out the lights, snuggle up and allow him to sleep it off. He definitely will be feeling on top of the world once he awakes.

Besides, wouldn't it be a boost to your ego to know making love to you is so amazing, you can put him right to sleep after?