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Help! My uptight husband is ruining our family meetings

Published:Tuesday | September 16, 2014 | 12:00 AM

Q: My husband went to visit a friend and saw that they have a Thursday night family council. All members of the family sit and talk and plan for about an hour. We started it, but my husband runs it like a business meeting. How can I get him to relax?

A: Speak with your husband without the children present and ask that the meeting be more relaxed. Encourage him to have the meetings in the living room where everyone will be comfortably seated.

Q: I have decided to start planning for a local family vacation in December. Both of us parents are civil servants and would like the children to see more of Jamaica. My 14-year-old son has shared that he is not interested. How do I motivate him?

A: You need to remind your son who is in charge of your home.You can give him a role in the planning process which will teach him to be responsible.

Q: My eight-year-old does not want to go to art class at school. He complains that the teacher is "rough". She seems to always shout when reprimanding the children. Can I share this with the principal?

A: It is very important that you share this and any concern you have about the school with the principal. The earlier information is shared with the school's leadership, the better the school will be in its efficiency and professionalism.

Orlean Brown-Earle, PhD, is a child psychologist and family therapist. Dr Brown-Earle works with children with learning and behavioural problems throughout the island and in the Caribbean. Email questions to or send to Ask the Doc, c/o The Gleaner Company, 7 North Street, Kingston. Responses to concerns are to be considered as general, as cases shared with psychologists privately would be queried more deeply. Pray always!