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Two parents best chance for positive kids

Published:Wednesday | June 15, 2016 | 12:00 AM


I read Patria-Kaye Aarons' article 'The sick religious threesomes' (Gleaner, June 13, 2016) with interest and I do agree that religion is very keen on sexual sin, as opposed to lying, stealing and ill will towards fellow human beings.

Where I was a bit dumbfounded, however, was when Ms Aarons wrote: "Eighty per cent of Jamaicans come into this world by fornication, and no amount of public shaming and Bible-beating is going to change that." It is as if Ms Aarons is giving her stamp of approval to the irresponsible fashion in which we bring children into the world here in Jamaica. Unlike Ms Aarons, I do see the fact that 80 per cent of Jamaicans are born out of wedlock as problematic for the children concerned - forget the adults - and problematic for the society.

Children who have the undivided attention of two parents who are in a committed relationship will, all things being equal, fare better in a competitive world than children who have one, exhausted, overworked parent, usually a mother. Children with two working parents who invest their earnings for the good of the family unit will most times fare better than those of the mother who is running all over the place trying to get child support from the children's father(s) in order to supplement her one-income household. I need not go into the pathology of the effects of fatherlessness on children's (especially boys') sense of identity and feelings of self-worth.

Does Ms Aarons not think the 20 per cent of Jamaicans who do have their children within the context of a marriage may be on to something?