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Letter of the Day | Put burden on male abusers

Published:Friday | December 23, 2016 | 12:00 AM

THE EDITOR, Sir:

"I am not blaming women for the horrific things done to them by men in this country. All I'm saying is that when those masquerading as men even suggest violence against you, take action. Don't be willing victims for these sacks of filth who draw strength from servility and weakness. Ladies, protect yourselves. Take action." ('Don't take one more slap', December 21, 2016, George Davis)

How exactly, George? How exactly should one take action? That was a pretty useless and, unfortunately, simplistic way to end an otherwise interesting article.

Also, why do you think it is that the second woman that you described (1) said nothing in the face of blatant and searing disrespect, and (2) didn't report the incident to the police? I'd suggest that you bounce that last two-pronged question off a few of your female friends. Ask them also why staying silent was actually an act of courage on the woman's part. Without even knowing your friends, I can tell you that some - probably all - have experienced something similar, hopefully without the violence (hopefully).

Until you're able to talk to your sistrens, I'd recommend these articles to help guide your thinking:

• 'I'm tired of being kind to creepy men in order to stay safe' (https://www.theguardian.com/

commentisfree/2015/aug/20/sexual-harassment-...)

• 'Why we smile at men who sexually harass us' (https://medium.com/@mshannabrooks/

why-women-smile-at-men-who-sexually-ha...)

I appreciate your adding your voice to this issue - the male voice is needed. But I am sick and tired of conversations about what women should be doing differently in order to stop men from abusing them. How about an article written by a man that speaks to men about the role that men have to play in order to stop men from abusing women (and children and other men). I'm sick and tired of the 'why doesn't she leave?' conversation.

KAYONNE WEBLEY

kayonne.webley@gmail.com