Is there a position which will prevent conception?
Q Doc, is it true that I can't get a girl pregnant if we do it in certain positions? I heard that from my friends.
You see, I am deeply in love with this beautiful girl. We recently started having sex, but she will not let me 'go all the way' in case I get her pregnant. But we have been told that if she stands upright, it would be OK to climax inside her.
Is that correct?
A No, it certainly isn't! Unfortunately, this myth about 'certain positions prevent pregnancy' has been circulating among teenagers for years.
Usually, the story is that all will be well, provided you do it standing up, or with the girl upside-down - or something equally ridiculous. It is all foolishness. It is the type of foolishness that has often caused unwanted pregnancy.
The fact is that a guy's sperm can swim so hard and so fast that they can get a woman pregnant no matter what position she is in.
You say you love this girl. Well, then, please take her to a doctor or clinic where they can give you good advice about safe contraception.
Q I have just started the Pill prior to having sex for the first time, but what I cannot understand is this: The doctor told me to take it for three weeks and then have a week's 'break' before starting again. But how could I be protected during the week's break when I will be taking no Pills?
A Relax! You will be protected. You see, what the Pill does is stops you from ovulating, that is, releasing an ovum (egg).
Provided you do not ovulate, you CANNOT get pregnant that month, even during the week's break.
But please bear in mind that you must not FORGET any Pills. If you do that, the body may suddenly decide that this is a great opportunity to ovulate. Result: You may wind up pregnant.
Q Hi, Doc. Am I right in thinking I should always blow into the condom before having sex with a girl? I understand that this is to check for leaks.
A I am afraid you are wrong. Do NOT do this!
Good brands of condoms are carefully tested before they leave the factory, so there is NO need to 'puff them up'. Indeed, blowing into them may actually break them.
Q I am a 21-year-old female student. Last week, I had an orgasm for the very first time in my life. I was pleased about that because I had been beginning to think maybe I couldn't do it.
But what concerned me, Doc, is this: At the moment of climax, I suddenly produced about a cupful of some sort of fluid. This made the sheets wet - and certainly surprised my partner!
Is there something very wrong with me?
A Not at all. This was just what is called 'female ejaculation'. Only a minority of women do it. It is possible that it may never happen to you again.
It is perfectly normal and nothing to fret about.
Q Doc, I am embarrassed to admit I had a pretty wild night with two girls in Kingston. A few days afterwards, I got some worrying symptoms, so I went to a doctor.
He diagnosed something called 'non-specific urethritis'. He gave me some medication, which I have taken. Fortunately, the symptoms have all gone away now.
What is this 'non-specific urethritis', please? Is it very serious?
A Well, it is not life-threatening, but it has to be treated carefully and fully.
Obviously, you caught it from one, or both, of the girls in Kingston.
Non-specific urethritis is often known as 'NSU'. It is an inflammation of the male urinary pipe (the urethra). That inflammation produces symptoms that are very like those of gonorrhoea ('the clap'). Those symptoms are:
n Pain while urinating;
n A whitish or yellowish discharge from the penis.
NSU can be caused from various germ infections, but the commonest 'bug' is chlamydia.
Fortunately, the condition responds very well to a course of antibiotics.
Most important: do NOT have sex with anybody till you have been pronounced cured. Also, if it is at all possible to contact the two young ladies in the Corporate Area and tell them that they need treatment, that would be a good thing to do.
Q Because I have an active sex life, I am going to go on the mini-Pill, but when should I start taking it?
Also, is it true that the mini-Pill can give you a bad complexion?
A You start the mini-Pill on the first day of your menses.
Yes, it is true that sometimes the mini-Pill can give a girl spots on the face. If that happens, ask the doctor to switch you to another brand.
Q I have a boyfriend, and we enjoy regular sex. I often discharge.
What is concerning me, Doc, is that I seem to have developed warm feelings for a female lecturer at the university. Does this mean that I am really a lesbian?
A Research shows that many young females do develop feelings for other women when they are in their late teens or early 20s. Often, they get quite obsessed with an older lady such as a teacher or lecturer. This is described as a 'crush'.
Although you clearly have a bit of a crush on your lecturer, it is quite likely that this will disappear after a few months. I do not think there is much evidence that you are a lesbian, but, really, you will just have to see how it goes.
Q I am a guy of 20. After having sex, how soon should I be able to do it again, Doc?
A Well, this varies a lot. Some young men of 20 can have sex again within about an hour, but others cannot.
Please don't fret about this. Sex is not an Olympic sport! The most important things are to make your partner happy - and to ensure that you do not get her pregnant.
Q I am female, 22, and have never had sex in my life. I am going to put that right next weekend with my loving fiancé and have gone on the Pill in preparation for this.
My question is: will it hurt, Doc? Should I make some sort of preparation, like getting myself a lubricant?
A It is good that you have taken the wise precaution of going on the Pill. As to the question of pain, a lot of young women have none at all when they first have sex.
However, a substantial number do feel a little pain, especially if they are not too well relaxed. An important thing is to tell your fiancé NOT to rush matters!
Yes, you could make everything a little easier by spreading a 'sex lubricant' on yourself - and on him. You can buy 'lubes' at all large pharmacies. Good luck!
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