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My daughter was involved in a fight

Published:Tuesday | March 31, 2015 | 3:00 AM

Q My 14-year-old daughter was involved in a fight at her school with a 12-year-old boy. The boy, who is bigger than her, calls her names because of her mixed heritage. She spoke with him about it while at the bus stop near the school and he came close to her and call her the bad name. She then pushed him away and the fight began. How is it that she got blamed?

A The rules of the school states that the persons who causes physical harm is the person who is responsible. The young man should also be made responsible for his actions. We will have to remember to teach our children to walk away from those who incite others to do wrong.

 

How do I stop this quarrel?

 

Q My daughter, age 12, had a run-in with the boys down the street about shooting birds. This is in urban Jamaica in a nice neighbourhood. How can I get them to stop?

A You simply need to educate the young men about the harm they are doing to the birds and, generally, to the environment. Education is the key here.

 

Should I let her go to her HEART?

 

Q My 17-year-old has eight subjects and wishes to go to HEART Trust/National Training Agency to do cosmetology. Should I stop her?

A It is great that she has an idea of what she desires to do. I recommend that you guide her to a career counsellor, but also let her understand what the business side of the cosmetology industry involves. Then, if she still desires to complete cosmetology studies, support her, she may become a major player in the industry one day.

- Orlean Brown-Earle, PhD, is a child psychologist and family therapist. Dr Brown-Earle works with children with learning and behavioural problems throughout the island and in the Caribbean. Email questions to editor@gleanerjm.com or send to Ask the Doc, c/o The Gleaner Company, 7 North Street, Kingston. Responses to concerns are to be considered as general, as cases shared with psychologists privately would be queried more deeply. Pray always!