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My mother has a relationship with the neighbour

Published:Wednesday | May 6, 2015 | 12:00 AM

My mother had a fleeting relationship with our neighbour. His wife lives abroad. Now he wants to give me gifts so I do not talk about what happened. I have refused the gifts and he is unhappy. I told him I would not talk. How do I get him to believe me? Talking will hurt my mother and I do not want to do that.

A: Let your neighbour know that you do not wish for your mother to get hurt and that is the reason you will not share the information with anyone.

I am unsure of the goals that I should work towards to open my own business. I am 18, completing sixth form and do not want to go to college. I am thinking of starting a business with my computer skills. Am I normal?

A: You are quite normal. No one should force themselves to go to college. You can also visit a financial institution and they will guide you regarding how you may start and maintain a business. Sit with a career adviser. This may be your guidance counsellor or a psychologist, and review your options.

I just learnt that I was adopted. I am 14 years old. It slipped out from my aunt. I still love my parents. Is it okay for me to try to find my biological parents?

A: Now that you have this information, sit with your parents and share with them the plans you have.

- Orlean Brown-Earle, PhD, is a child psychologist and family therapist. Dr Brown-Earle works with children with learning and behavioural problems throughout the island and in the Caribbean. Email questions to editor@gleanerjm.com or send to Ask the Doc, c/o The Gleaner Company, 7 North Street, Kingston. Responses to concerns are to be considered as general, as cases shared with psychologists privately would be queried more deeply. Pray always!