Caught her cheating and wanted to kill her
Q I have been married for 16 years and I thought I had a good marriage. I invested a lot in my wife and we have a 13-year-old son. I have my own business and I have to travel out of town, and sometimes I have to spend two or three days away from home. From my successful business, which I inherited from my father, I sent her to university and she is now in a good job. She saves her money as I take care of all the expenses, including the mortgage and car payments. However, my friends and neighbours told me something was going on when I am away. I asked her about it and she denied it, saying that he was a study partner. However, I decided to test her. I told her I would be away for three nights as I had to do business in western Jamaica. However, I came home at midnight the same day only to catch her in my bed with another man. I was mad and shouted at her. I then ran to the car to get my licensed firearm to kill both of them, but they ran away in his car. I chased them, but they eluded me.
My son was asleep in his bedroom and he did not know what was going on. He heard the shouting and commotion and was shocked and disappointed in his mother. She called me and said she wants a divorce and wants her things from the house. Sometimes I feel as if I want to end her life and mine. I do not want the bed or anything to remind me of her. She can take all the furnishings. I do not want her again. She has never said sorry or asked for forgiveness. Sometimes I am not sure what I want to do. Can you help me?
A One can understand your utter hurt and shock when you caught her in the act. She betrayed you. She was deliberate in her actions. She disrespected your relationship. It is not good to be harbouring thoughts of ending lives. Furthermore, it would be a great burden on your young son to lose both parents in such tragic circumstances. Your son needs you to be alive and out of prison. You are a good provider and role model for your son. Obviously, your friends and neighbours respect you, hence, they told you what was going on with your wife. In addition, they did not appreciate what your wife was doing and what she stood for.
Since she wants a divorce and you do not want her back, then a divorce seems a good option or at least better than what is happening now. You can tell her to take her belongings and it might be best if you are not there when she returns. You will need a lawyer. In addition, since you are having these unwholesome thoughts, you need to consult a professional counsellor.