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'Worried about my son'

Published:Tuesday | December 15, 2015 | 12:00 AM

Q My 17-year-old son is very quiet these days. He is doing well at school but speaks in short sentences. He is not rude just quiet. What do I do?

A You can share with your son that you think he is a little more quiet than usual, and want to know if he is OK. Plan for you both to be away from the family for a while, hang out and chat. If you are still concerned, ask if he will speak with a psychologist.

Q I am going away for the holidays to do some marketing for my business. My husband wants a young lady, about 21, to stay with the children until I get back right after Christmas. I am not happy with this as my 19-year-old son is friendly with her. Is it OK to say no?

AIt is quite OK to state who you want to be in your house while you are away. Choose someone with whom you will be comfortable and keep in touch daily.

Q I am sad as my sister lost her son last month. The child was 12. She thinks she should go away for a week to get some rest. Is it OK for her to do this and have her 10-year-old stay with me for the time?

A Your sister's mental health is very important right now. If she decides to go, ask her to let her 10-year-old know she is going away for a short while, and to keep in touch daily.

- Orlean Brown-Earle, PhD, is a child psychologist and family therapist. Dr Brown-Earle works with children with learning and behavioural problems throughout the island and in the Caribbean. Email questions to editor@gleanerjm.com or send to Ask the Doc, c/o The Gleaner Company, 7 North Street, Kingston. Responses to concerns are to be considered as general, as cases shared with psychologists privately would be queried more deeply. Pray always!