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Ask The Doc:Mother-in-law trying to take over

Published:Thursday | August 7, 2014 | 8:00 AM

Q My mother-in-law has moved to live next door to us. It was quaint at first, but now even the children who are teenagers are complaining. She is trying to run the house. Financially, it is best for her to be next door. Do I tell her the children are annoyed?

A You and your husband need to sit with your mother-in-law and explain gently to her the importance of respecting your household. I am sure when she realises that you are not being selfish, she will change her attitude.

Q I sat with my children, ages 10 and 12, and we looked at the finances and chose to buy second-hand books and fewer uniforms. My ex-husband came along after and has promised money to buy fancy school stuff. I asked him to leave as all he does is make promises. Was I wrong?

A Continue to plan with your children with the money you have. If the additional money comes in, save some of it.

Q My children love to visit an old man next door. Recently, I saw him with an ancient-looking gun. I asked the children if they had seen it. They said yes and that they even pressed the trigger. I nearly died. I am writing you to ask you to tell parents not be trusting of neighbours, even if they are old persons. They can teach your children bad things.

A Thank you for your letter. I hope all parents will be more careful of where their children play and visit.

Orlean Brown-Earle, PhD, is a child psychologist and family therapist. Dr Brown-Earle works with children with learning and behavioural problems throughout the island and in the Caribbean. Email questions to editor@gleanerjm.com or send to Ask the Doc, c/o The Gleaner Company, 7 North Street, Kingston. Responses to concerns are to be considered as general, as cases shared with psychologists privately would be queried more deeply. Pray always!