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My son won't clean his room or shoes

Published:Tuesday | September 30, 2014 | 12:00 AM

Q: My 10-year-old son is quite the businessman. He has decided to sell his old toys and save money in his school account. He even cleans them before selling them, but I cannot get him to clean his shoes or his room. What can I do?

A: Set the rules-- no sales unless shoes are clean and room is clean. Let him know that a good salesman presents a good image and clean shoes help with a good image.

Q: My daughter, who is 17, took my credit card and went shopping. Over $10,000 was used. My mother says I should be soft on her. I feel that we should punish her severely. She should work and put it back or be denied of privileges that we put a cost to. Am I wrong?

A: Your daughter needs to learn now not to steal. She should be taught to be responsible for her actions. Your suggestions are sensible ones.

Q: My son is in college in America and wants to join the army instead of finishing college. He is a US citizen, but has never lived there. Can I stop him?

A: If your son is an adult, he is free to make his own decision. Spend some time speaking with him and see if you can understand why he is taking this step.

Orlean Brown-Earle, PhD, is a child psychologist and family therapist. Dr Brown-Earle works with children with learning and behavioural problems throughout the island and in the Caribbean. Email questions to or send to Ask the Doc, c/o The Gleaner Company, 7 North Street, Kingston. Responses to concerns are to be considered as general, as cases shared with psychologists privately would be queried more deeply. Pray always!