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Marital rape: A blatant attack on Christian principles

Published:Monday | November 10, 2014 | 12:00 AM
Steve Lyston COLUMNIST

Steve Lyston, Contributor

The Bible calls sexual intimacy in marriage a privilege and a mystery by which a man and a woman become one (Ephesians 5:32; Genesis 2:24).

However, the privilege is abused when people who are not married to each other have sexual intercourse (1 Corinthians 5:1; 1 Corinthians 6:16).

Marriage symbolises the love of Christ for the Church, which brings joy and delight, but sex outside of the biblical boundaries is destructive (I Corinthians 6:15-16; Proverbs 5:3-11, 15 and 18).

The political or social distinction of temporal life are not the most important. What matters is obedience to God. Christians should not change to fit the world views. We stand on the view of God.

There are innumerable attacks coming against marriage and it is all a plan to destroy the Christian principle. It is imperative for Christians to stand and push back any destructive elements. There are all manner of systems and groups put in place to successfully divide the family and break up marriages. They began with the terminologies - women and children - while they ignored and neglected the men! They want to shift the consent age to destroy the bodies and derail the emotions of our children.

Not Sinful

Let us understand that sexual drive is not a sinful thing. What is sinful is committing the acts of adultery or fornication or going beyond the boundaries of what the Bible outlines.

Married couples should in no way deprive each other of sex! God made it for married people to enjoy and to procreate. The Bible clearly outlines that the only way one would 'deprive' the other is if there is mutual consent; and then it would have been agreed upon.

If a Christian couple is fasting, and one can't hold out, then the couple should come together and engage in sex.

Many arguments have been surfacing lately about marital rape. There is no such thing as marital rape and this is a blatant attack on Christian principles.

1 Corinthians 7:4 says, "The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does."

no denial allowed

Once the man or woman is fit and healthy - and there are no negatively impacting health issues - then neither should deny each other of the privilege of sexual intercourse. A lot of persons are pushing different agendas to destroy the principles of marriage; others are speaking from a place of deep hurt and abuse from which they need to be delivered and restored to the point of healing.

God's word is truth and light. For many, because of the influence of Hollywood and perverted media, there is a push to discredit and destroy this honourable institution of God's called marriage. It is the duty of everyone to pray so that this argument/matter never becomes a reality.

I have known of situations where women were influenced by others to hold back sex until the husband paid her separately for the privilege. There are other situations where, because the man was going through a financial situation where he could not provide adequately for his family, he was denied sex. In other cases, some deny their spouses because they were not properly satisfied. Some deny because there is a third party. But regardless of the situation, we have to fast and pray that one's sex life remains intact. Both parties must put away selfishness in marriage and make every effort to satisfy each other.

fight against sex

Why is there so much fight against sex? Today, sex has become more important to many than feeding the homeless.

The Bible says that a person ought not to 'burn' but instead get married, and enjoy the privilege and mystery of sex. While sex is still a temporal arrangement and not a part of our eternal existence, and while marriage itself is an earthly institution, both are equally important; and God honours sex within marital boundaries.

If one is single and does not have the gift of celibacy, don't burn with the passion (1 Corinthians 7:7-9), get married and enjoy all the sex you want!

If the powers that be would invest in going into the communities and encouraging our young people - who are being pimped, trafficked and even abused by influential ones in our society who think they are untouchable - to get married and structure their lives better, then we would see how much it would improve the fabric of our society.

Steve Lyston is a biblical economics consultant and author of several books, including 'End Time Finance' and 'The New Millionaire'.