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How giving and receiving works

Published:Wednesday | December 3, 2014 | 12:00 AM

Hello Mi Neighbour -  Maas Gussi

HELLO MI neighbour! The tone of my weekly callers often separates givers from askers. While the askers' tone is usually characterised by sadness, invariably there is a strain of gladness accompanying the tone of the givers. This differentiation clearly results from their opposing circumstances - some are givers, the others are plain takers. The psychologist explains that giving releases happy hormones while begging releases unhappy hormones.

Happy hormones affect the way one feels emotionally. They combat stress and lifts one's mood. A reasonable conclusion therefore, is that unhappy hormones will do the opposite.

The biblical injunction, "It's more blessed to give than to receive", speaks volumes to the benefits which accrue to habitual givers. Not only do they experience torrential joy from acts of giving, they always seem to possess an expanding supply of life's necessities. Any wonder why they keep on giving?

Despite the rationale for begging, it is no secret that a prolonged habit destroys the human spirit. It corrupts the mental faculty, making people prone to laziness, mindlessness, covetousness, disrespectfulness, and low self-esteem, etc. No one rolls out the red carpet for the beggar, who is often shunned by even the most generous heart. Anyone who gets trapped in this habit should beg the Almighty for the strength to break away ASAP!

Natural Outgrowth of Poverty

One may correctly argue that begging is a natural outgrowth of poverty, for example, in the case of the unskilled/ unemployed neighbour from the country with three fatherless children in school. She sees no alternative but to beg because her children must attend school - yes, they must. Cases like that can easily cause begging to become a way of life, but that should not be allowed.

I firmly believe that if beggars could learn to give more and beg less, it's just a matter of time before their lives experience a complete positive turnaround. And we can all play a part in this process. All of us are acquainted or familiar with one or two habitual beggars. Right? Here's what we can do: schedule a little time one day to take them aside and explain the virtues of giving and receiving to them. There could be no better gift to these neighbours.

In the meanwhile, if you help someone from the list below, you are not condoning habitual begging, you are just helping out in a one-off situation.

And by the way, I hear that pedestrians could soon be arrested if they cause road crashes. Does this apply to skimpily dressed (undressed) ladies who parade our streets?

Until next time, the dialogue on the establishment on a national Neighbour Day continues. What's your opinion?

To help, please call 334-8165, 884-3866, 299-3412 or deposit to acct # 351 044 276 NCB. (Bank routing #: JNCBJMKX) or send donations to Hello Neighbour C/o 53 Half Way Tree Road, Kingston 10; e-mail helloneighbour@yahoo.com.


Thanks for helping:

1. Neighbour, for offering a mattress to another neighbour.

2. Owen, for purchasing a mattress for Freddy.

3. Neighbour, for offering clothing for eight-year-old girl.

4. Neighbour, for offering female clothing for a needy neighbour.

5. Claudia, for offering financial assistance to needy.

Opportunities for helping:

Simone, Manchester, indebted to the university and may not sit exams as a result - seeking neighbours' assistance in this matter - over $200,000.

Tanga, St Andrew, mother of three indulging in unsavory practices in order to earn an income to feed her children. Asking for assistance to start a small business.

Leonie, Clarendon, suffered two mini strokes and in need of neighbours' assistance to do CT scan. Also needs a pair of glasses.

Delores, senior person - asking for assistance to purchase a sewing machine.

Meka, St Andrew, mother of four asking for a crib and a dining table.

Neighbour, father of four cannot find a job - family is hungry. Asking for brown sugar, ginger, grease paper to make 'Busta' in order to get an income.