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Words can heal or harm

Published:Thursday | February 19, 2015 | 12:00 AM

Can the words you use influence your health and prosperity? Can your ability to heal be affected by the very language you use? Do the negative connotations in your expressions prevent you from attaining your true desires? Words are powerful. 'In the beginning was the word' says the scriptures.

From a scientific perspective, words are sounds. Sound, like everything else, is energy. Different words represent different energies vibrating at different frequencies. The energy from the words you utter will go seeking an object or circumstance with an equivalent energetic vibration. It's a phenomenon called resonance. If this sounds way out or 'New Age', it is simply what modern physics and psychology have demonstrated to be absolutely true.

Etymology is the study of the origin of words and their meanings. Understanding how words affect our reality is an equally important study that can help us to better achieve our deepest desires.


Be careful with your words


Being conscious of the words you speak can have a huge impact on your life. Cursing, complaining and gossiping about others or expressing envy at their success can harm us. The energy in those words attracts disappointment, unhappiness and pain into the speaker's own life. Using a language of acceptance, respect and love leads in an entirely new direction and creates positive new realities.

Below are some common words we should avoid using, and replace with more powerful choices to attract better results.


Words that label - 'I AM'


Be careful of statements that begin with 'I am' as, in using them, we often take on an identity or condition that we may not wish to own. That phrase is so powerful that sacred writings have God describing himself in those words. The phrase is great to use in an empowering context like - 'I am confident' or 'I am blessed'. But when 'I am' is followed by something negative, it may not be serving your best interest.

The individual who says 'I am tired' really means that she is feeling tired, mentally or physically or both. But is she not more than just her mind or body? Proclaiming, 'I am tired' carries a different resonance to 'I feel tired'. Making the distinction between what I feel and what I am can make a big difference in how we address challenging situations.

When a patient announces, 'I am diabetic' I can feel him taking on a label that he strongly identifies with, even though he may not be aware of doing so and would wish not to. He is blissfully unaware of its negative impact. If I can get him to describe himself differently, as someone having a problem with blood sugar control or a disturbance in his body's metabolism, a big shift in his consciousness can take place. He can stop owning that label and stop hugging up the disease.


Words that limit - 'I Can't'


If you want to accomplish something, saying 'I can't' will only direct your energy away from making it happen. Saying 'I can't' diverts you from what can be done, preventing you from ever accomplishing your goals.

Try replacing can't with 'can' or 'will'. Telling yourself that something will be done helps you centre your energy and aim at your goal. Believing that something is impossible will always make it just that. As the great Henry Ford said - "If you believe you can, that's true and if you believe you can't, that's also true."


Words that harm - 'I Hate'


If something really bothers you, hating it only gives it more power to affecting your mood and energy. Things you hate are only a reflection of what you don't want. Verbally hating and projecting anger towards these things only makes them more real. Avoid focusing on the things you feel you hate. According to the Law of Attraction, you will only make then bigger and stronger.

When you feel hate for someone or something, you are identifying an aspect of your own self that you do not like or understand. The more you hate, the more you set out to punish yourself. Give thanks for every part of you and your world and learn to forgive yourself. It makes forgiving the other easier and dissolves the things you once hated.

Instead of hate, use words like 'I do not understand' or 'I do not appreciate'. This can later evolve to 'I understand' or 'I appreciate' or 'I give thanks' or even 'I love'.


Words that rob - 'I Need'


If you really want something, then constantly feeling neediness for it will only attract the lack thereof. That is because neediness is associated with lack, not abundance. Instead of needing something, be thankful for what you already have, appreciating the tools and skills you possess that will help you. In this context consider the biblical statement - to him that hath, it shall be given, and to him that hath not it shall be taken away even that which he hath. Poverty of consciousness will cause you to lose what you have.

Instead of constantly saying 'I need/I want', reflect on what you do have and say, 'I'm thankful for'. Thanksgiving is directly related to abundance. Appreciating and using what you already have will bring more good into your life.

- You may email Dr. Vendryes at or listen to An Ounce of Prevention on POWER106FM on Fridays at 8:15 pm. Details of his new book An Ounce of Prevention - Particularly for Men is available on his website