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Sex, Lies & Desperate Love Lives: Part 1

Published:Saturday | August 22, 2015 | 8:00 AM

Genesis 2:18 states: "And the Lord God said it isn't good for man to be alone. I will make a companion for him." Sometimes, however, we find ourselves being lonely and though loneliness is not a sin, it can become an issue in our lives and can become a catalyst that gets us into all types of problems relationally and sexually. God is aware of these possibilities but He has not left us without a solution; He has an escape plan for us to get out. What should we do when we face loneliness?

1 Don't limit God's solution

When we get into times of loneliness it is natural for us to want to devise human ways to get out of that state. But the problem with our human solution is that they are less than God's highest solutions. Whenever you go after a lesser solution, settling for something less than God's best, there are consequences of that. "My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts," says the Lord. "And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine ..." Isaiah, 55:8-9 NLT. There is no higher plan for your life than God's plan - don't settle for anything less.

2 Connect with others

That is connecting into healthy relationships. Healthy relationships are very hard to find, but God has a plan for you to connect with people in healthy relationships. Psalm 68:6 NLT says: "... God places the lonely in families." When God talks about families, He talks about two types of families: your natural and spiritual families. God has created a community, a spiritual family in which you can find the cure for loneliness. It is called the church. In Acts 2:44, it's talking about the place God desires for His people to be together, and says this, "All of the believers met together constantly and shared everything with each other."

3 Focus on others first

When we feel lonely we start thinking of ourselves even more. The more you focus on yourself, the more you pull away from others. But God's escape plan for breaking that cycle is to focus on the needs of others first. It is only by focusing on the needs of others first, that my needs will ever be met. "Don't be selfish; don't try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves." Philippians 2:3 NLT. God said that because this is the answer to a life of significance.

4 Recognise God is there

In our times of loneliness it is very easy to askwhere's God? God, have you abandoned me? But the truth is there is no place that you are that God's not. "Is there any place I can go to avoid your Spirit? To be out of your sight? If I climb to the sky, you're there! If I go underground, you're there!" Psalm 139:7-8 MSG. Recognise His presence. Let His presence be a healing factor in your life. Jesus said, "And remember I am always with you until the end of time." Matthew 28:20 GWT.

5 Trust God's plan for my Life

The key to all of this is to trust in God's plan. "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11 NIV. Even the strongest of believers like the Apostle Paul experiences loneliness but trust God's plan. Stay with it. Don't go outside. Don't go a different way. Stay with God.