Joan Gumbs from setback to comeback
She was the life of the party, the one who would close club doors for more than 10 years. When it comes on to having a good time and downing the liquor Joan Gumbs was your girl!
With a laugh, she quipped, "I used to drink Red Stripe beer by the dozens. Why? I am an avid domino player and I used to play for liquor," she said.
Being a no nonsense person Gumbs said she would change boyfriends "every year!"
Being someone who could master the dance moves, she would find the latest action and stay until the morning light.
Since 1998, all that is now behind her and Gumbs is focused on the new path she is on. Very soon she will be launching the How Ya Livin' Now Deliverance Outreach Ministries Church with a two-week Camp Revival Meeting.
Embarking on this new journey Gumbs said it is not one she asked for and she doesn't expect it to be easy.
"I never asked for it, and I have tried to avoid it. I have seen where ministers have been ostracised, and have been abused because of the bad seeds in the ministry. There are good pastors and there are some very bad ones. I never wanted to join either group," she said.
In spite of all those reservations, Gumbs said she now has to put aside her reservations and focus on the positive side of being a preacher.
"A preacher is one who gives advice, lectures, encourages, speaks to or expound on the Word of God. It is no coincidence that the Lord has now called me to activate the office of a pastor as I have always been doing the encouraging and caring role," she said.
Now firmly set on her path Elder Gumbs, who was ordained in 2010, is allowing herself to look on the mistakes she has made in her life and the lessons she has learnt from them.
Now divorced, she said she got married because a prophet gave her a date and said the Lord told him she should get married on that date.
"I was married for 12 years, but we were living separate lives for most of those 12 years. That marriage taught me so many things about men and about myself," she shared.
hear from God for yourself
The most important lesson she said is to hear from God for yourself. "There are false prophets out there! But seriously, what I learnt is that you cannot fight fire with fire in a marriage. Proverbs 15:1 states, 'A soft answer turns away wrath ...' and you really have to keep doing that. I used to have a temper, so if my husband said A, I would say B, and so on," she said.
"I have learnt that is not the way. I have also learnt not to let the sun go down on my anger, which basically means not to go to bed angry, and if you do go to bed angry and your husband wants sex, give him! Too many times wives try to hold out on their husbands, out of spite. It is not Scriptural," are the sage words coming from her.
According Elder Gumbs the only time sex should be withheld is the woman's time of the month or if she is really not feeling well.
"Some sisters like to claim they are fasting, so as not to give the husband any ... Make sure you're fasting together that way he will not be needing sex at the same time," she said.
In spite of that experience, she is encouraging others who have not entered the institution not to be scared or anxious.
"It is God's holy institution, just remember my advice and you'll be fine."