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What’s wrong with drinking a bottle or beer or Guinness?

Published:Saturday | September 26, 2015 | 12:00 AM

What's wrong with drinking a bottle of beer or Guinness?

Dear Joan,

I am so happy to read the article in Family and Religion on whether Jesus served wine or grape juice. I am a Christian who attends a Pentecostal church and sometimes I have a bottle of Red Stripe or Guinness, and when I do, some of the older folks in church rebuke me, saying that I should not be consuming any alcohol.

I tell them that I don't drink in excess and I see nothing wrong with it. They quote the Scripture about wine is a mocker and strong drink is raging. I really don't entertain the argument, but it's not that long since I have been saved, so I am asking you, as a young man, what is so wrong to have a bottle of beer now and again. Am I really sinning?

- J.K.

Dear J.K.,

Congrats on the best decision you will ever make that of giving your life to the Lord. It is a waste of time trying to argue and prove to those older folks that nothing is wrong with having a beer or a glass of wine every now and again. They are set in the old traditional ways and I don't see them being convinced any time soon.

It is good that you have your own convictions. I am of the opinion also that it is OK to indulge in moderate drinking. In reference to the verse that was quoted, it said, "Whosoever is deceived is not wise", meaning if you allow yourself to come under its

influence, then you are really foolish.

Too many times people read the Bible and come away with their own interpretation.

I am not advocating for anyone to become a drunkard, but a little social drinking is OK.

- Joan

I can't forgive my husband for cheating

Dear Joan,

I have been married for more than 18 years and I honestly thought I had the perfect marriage. We started from scratch with both of us struggling, we worked hard together to build a nice home for our two children, and we are now living comfortably. I wouldn't say we are rich, but we are OK.

Just as I was getting contented in the next phase of our lives, I found out that my husband is having an affair. I am so hurt, Joan, to think I have resisted temptation, and he could just callously forget our vows and sleep with someone else.

I don't know if I would have felt better if he had confessed and told me about it, instead of me finding out about it.

He was in the bathroom when his phone rang. I answered it intending to tell the person to call him back in a few minutes. Imagine my surprise when a demanding female voice said "Who is this and why are you answering (my husband's name) phone?"

At that point I said, "excuse me, who are you?"

The woman audaciously replied, "I am his woman, so go give him the phone!"

When he finished his shower, I confronted him about the call and he told me he was sorry and he didn't even know how he got caught up in that trap. He said she has been calling his phone every minute since he broke it off. He promised it will never happen again, but I feel like throwing in the towel on the marriage.

Joan, honestly tell me, what should I do?

- S.H.

Dear S.H.,

Take some time to cool off. There is no going around the fact that he has hurt you, but don't throw away your marriage just yet. I think the woman he cheated with suspected that it was you, his wife, who answered the phone. She was hoping for the exact action you are planning to take. The field would then be clear to really get back her hooks into him.

Only you can tell if you can forgive him and get past his infidelity. If you think he is really genuine in his remorse, you can fight to save your marriage. It is going to take a lot of hard work. You will naturally be having doubts about some of his movements even if he is not up to anything. I suggest you two get some counselling so you can learn to move on and he can see what his actions did to you.

Blessings on your union.

- Joan

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