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Sadness destroys the foundation of society

Published:Wednesday | February 24, 2016 | 12:00 AM

Hello mi neighbour! Everyone has a sad story ... well, almost everyone. Often, these stories are compounded by the inability to find happy endings to them. Do we care? We find, though, that many persons of faith are not overly concerned when sad times come because their faith teaches that "everything works together for good ..." and that "weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning". Admittedly, this is a great stress-relieving attitude.

My line of business familiarises me with many sad stories ranging from a mother of five whose financial circumstances prohibit her from sending her children to school to another mother of five whose house has been gutted by fire, leaving them homeless.

In-between are families (with mostly single mothers) who have no food for their children, an elderly man/woman who needs help to fill a prescription, and a wife whose husband has just walked out on her, and so on. How sad.

In all instances, people seek some kind of reprieve as they prefer happiness to sadness, and rightly so. Sadness can be an ugly, energy-sapping emotion which is characterised by feelings of loss, despair, anger, sorrow and defeat. Plain and simple: sadness is harmful to our overall health.

According to the experts, sadness causes cloudiness of the mind, and increases blood pressure and heart rate. Further, this emotion leads to constipation, diarrhoea, chest/back pains, headaches, fatigue, loss of appetite for food or sex, etc. Left unattended, sadness will destroy the foundations of society: marriages, families, commercial and social activities, etc.

For a healthier society, we must work hard at reducing the high levels of sadness being experienced by our family members. Steps to alleviate sadness include kindness of heart, partnering with someone in prayer, and speaking with a counsellor, psychologist, health professional, or trusted family member or friend.




Thousands of studies across the globe have confirmed that happy people have more energy and experience less stress, worry, trauma and burnout than sad people. They are usually in better mental and physical health and live an average of eight to 12 years longer. They are usually regarded as more physically attractive, intelligent, competent, friendly, warm, and unselfish. Who wouldn't want to be happy?

So here's the deal: we are all a part of the same family whether black, white, brown, Chinese, Indian, Hispanic, etc., - all descendants of Adam and Eve. Usually, family members care about each other's welfare. That being so, shouldn't we all be attending to each other's welfare? What of our national motto, 'Out of Many, One People' (family)?

Isn't it time we became concerned about our collective welfare and pledge to do something about it? Not helping to relieve the pain of another is to deny that individual his or her inalienable right to happiness, which in and of itself is displeasing to the Eternal Father to whom we must one day give account for how we have treated each other.

Until next time, be reminded that we all have a responsibility to help replace the sad stories of others with happy ones. The list below is a good place to start.


Thanks for helping:


1. Holcian, St Andrew, offering a mattress to a neighbour.

2. Dawn, St Thomas, for offering shoes to a neighbour.

3. Paula, St Catherine, for donating a stove to a neighbour.

4. Neighbour, offering a wheelchair to another neighbour.


Opportunities for helping


- Beverly, St Andrew, asking neighbours for a TV and help to fix roof.

- Sachan, St Mary, asking for a radio or a television.

- Neighbour, asking neighbours for help with child's schooling $10,400.

- Ms Francis, mother and father are sick and need special care ... needs a second-hand washing machine to purchase to help with washing.

- Rosemarie, Clarendon, mother of six, nowhere to live. Asking for 10 sheets of zinc and six sheets of ply.

- Novelett, unemployed, asking neighbours for a stove.

- Jennell, unemployed, son attends basic school. Needs neighbours' help to pay school fee and purchase books.

- To help, please call 334-8165, 884-3866, 299-3412 or deposit to acct # 351 044 276 NCB. (Bank routing #: JNCBJMKX) or send donations to Hello Neighbour c/o 53 Half-Way Tree Road, Kingston 10; email