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My facebook friend wants to marry me

Published:Saturday | March 19, 2016 | 12:00 AM

My Facebook friend wants to marry me

Dear Joan,

Greetings! I have been corresponding with a Christian out of the United States on Facebook for more than three months. He is really encouraging. Sometimes we voice-talk and we pray together before we log out of our conversations. The more I converse with him, the more I realise that we have a lot in common. He seems to be very passionate about his walk with the Lord and, honestly, I can see myself making a life with him.

We have reached the point now where he told me that he would like us to get married. He is planning on coming to Jamaica to make it official, and I can't wait. I am writing you because a friend of mine has planted some seeds of doubt in my mind. She said that I am rushing into things and I should take some time to get to know this person because he could be someone other than what he is portraying to be online. Honestly, I never thought of that because of how real he comes across. Does my friend have a point.

- W.T.

Dear W.T,

For your sake, I hope this man is everything that you want him to be, but I have to agree with your friend. It is better to err on the side of caution. Many profiles that you see on Facebook are not real. Just look at some of the addresses that are given and the schools some of them claim to attend. There are people I see in my community every day and yet they list their address as being in the States. Wait until he actually visits and try to get to know his relatives. Don't go blindly into a commitment without having some background


I am not saying this person is a liar or that he is out to con you, but it doesn't hurt either to ensure that you are armed with as much information as possible. Divorce can be messy, so make sure you go into a union with the best possible odds.

I get nothing from my devotion

Dear Joan,

I have been saved for over a year now and I have made it a habit to engage in personal devotion as I want to grow in my relationship with the Lord. Each morning, I get up in the wee hours and read my 'Daily Bread', as well as select scriptures and then pray. I thought I would be in a deeper relationship by this, but I don't feel as if I am communicating with the Lord, and I never hear anything from Him. I hear testimonies from persons who said the Lord has spoken to them and sometimes, under the guidance of the Holy Spirit, they reach out to others who were really in need. I am yet to reach that place. What am I doing wrong?

- J.K.

Dear J.K.,

Congrats on maintaining your morning devotions. Don't get discouraged; just continue at it. One tip, though: When you are doing your devotion, don't rush the Bible. Read it thoughtfully, prayerfully, and allow the words to minister to your heart. God speaks to His people through several ways - the Bible, the Holy Spirit laying something on your heart, or a timely word from someone. If your devotional time is half an hour, 10 minutes should be dedicated to reading the Word, hum or sing a prayer chorus, pray and try to relax, leaving space for God to minister to your spirit. Silence is golden sometimes and it works in your devotion, too.


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