Ask the Doc| My sister is rude
Q My sister is very dependent on a family friend for child care. She asks her to pick up her boys and drop them off at various places. I think this is rude. How can I stop it?
A Your sister's friend is an adult who, I think, is capable of making her own decisions. You may share with your sister that you think she is being overbearing, but, in the end, it will be a decision that your sister and her friend will have to make. It is between them, after all.
Q I gave my 19-year-old mentally ill brother a chance to complete a job which I knew he had the skills to do well. My mother took the money I gave him for doing the job, and said it was to pay for his room and board at her house. I feel so bad about this. Was she wrong or right?
A The family may need to meet to see how you can help your mother financially to care for your brother. Even though he is mentally ill, he must be taught to be responsible with his money and understand that it costs to provide a roof over his head and food for his sustenance.
Q I am happy that my 15-year-old son plays an instrument but I am having a problem with his visiting father, who wants him to play pop music. We are strong Pentecostal Christians. How can I get his father to stop encouraging this secular behaviour?
A You need to be frank with your son's father and explain to him why you disagree with his approach. Pray with your son and explain to him why you desire for him to use his talents to glorify God only.
- Orlean Brown-Earle, PhD, is a child psychologist and family therapist. Dr Brown-Earle works with children with learning and behavioural problems throughout the island and in the Caribbean. Email questions to firstname.lastname@example.org or send to 'Ask the Doc', c/o The Gleaner Company, 7 North Street, Kingston. Responses to concerns are to be considered as general, as cases shared with psychologists privately would be queried more deeply. Pray always!