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Ask the Doc | My parents are too controlling!

Published:Wednesday | May 25, 2016 | 12:00 AM

Q: My parents have this way of taking a team approach towards everything. At 17, I think that I can do many things on my own. They are overprotective. How do I tell them to stop?


A: Your parents are going to be protective as long as you are alive. It is just what parents do. You may need to sit and speak with your parents and give them an example of how many things you can do without being overshadowed by them. Ensure that you are organised and that things go well so they can be confident that you are ready for the world.


Q: How do I encourage my mother to stop worrying about my grandfather who had a stroke? I learnt about stress at church. A psychologist shared that even children like me can be stressed. How can I help my mom?


A: If you have a family friend who is an adult, you can ask that individual to speak with your mother and encourage her. You can also ask your pastor to speak with her.

Q: My child has a learning disability and was not able to sit the Grade Six Achievement Test. He also has a physical disability. How can I ensure that his high-school education will be as normal as possible?


A: I recommend that you speak with the guidance counsellor and principal at his school regarding the possibilities for the next level of your child's education.


- Orlean Brown-Earle, PhD, is a child psychologist and family therapist. Dr Brown-Earle works with children with learning and behavioural problems throughout the island and in the Caribbean. Email questions to or send to 'Ask the Doc', c/o The Gleaner Company, 7 North Street, Kingston. Responses to concerns are to be considered as general, as cases shared with psychologists privately would be queried more deeply. Pray always!