Doctor's Advice | Did we go too far?
Q Hi, Doc. I am female, age 17. I have always felt that I should maintain my virginity until I am 25, but last night, I let my boyfriend go rather far with me.
In fact, I must admit that I let him put it in farther than ever before. I felt something 'pop' inside me. It was like an elastic band going 'twang'.
What do you think, Doc? Was this the hymen breaking? Do you feel that my virginity has gone forever? How could I check?
A This sounds exactly like the feeling which many females experience when the hymen (or 'virgin's veil') breaks. So I guess yours has gone.
There is really no method in which you could check on that, away from having an internal examination by a doctor.
But in fact, I have to tell you that if a girl allows any degree of penetration by a guy, then legally that means she is no longer a virgin.
What concerns me is that it doesn't sound as though you have been using any kind of contraception. So if you are going to continue 'fooling around' with your boyfriend, then you should get some protection - fast!
I suggest you begin by buying yourselves a pack of condoms. Please be careful to use them exactly as described in the instructions.
Q I have always felt that I could never, ever become a babyfather. I am 19, and in good health.
Doc, is there any way I could get a sperm test, to prove that I am definitely infertile?
A You don't seem to have any evidence at all for your belief that you are infertile.
In fact, a young man who is in good health has very nearly a 100 per cent chance of being fertile. So if you start having sex, you probably will soon become a babyfather.
Yes, you could get a sperm test done, by seeing a doctor. But it will cost you money. And the doctor will probably be quite astonished at your belief that you are sterile.
If you do a sperm test, please remember that your 'specimen' must be delivered to the lab fresh. This generally means producing the man-fluid somewhere pretty near to the laboratory.
Q Doc, Last month, I wanted to use the Morning-After Pill. But the doctor I saw refused to give it to me. Instead, he put in what he called 'the Emergency Coil.'
Does that make sense to you? Will it work? And can I carry on using it, after my present scare is over?
A Well, where emergency contraception is concerned, there has been a trend in recent years for docs to recommend the Emergency Coil rather than the Emergency Pill.
This is mainly because:
- The coil will prevent pregnancy for five days after unprotected sex;
- It can be left in the womb, and so give the woman protection against future pregnancies for years to come.
So the odds are that you are not pregnant, and that your next period will arrive. Also, if the coil does not cause you problems (like heavy menses) you will be able to use it for a very long time.
Q I am a very highly sexually active guy of 20. I've just discovered that I have very itchy patches of raw skin on either side of my scrotum, mainly on the part of the thighs that touches the scrotum.
Is this some kind of sexually-transmitted infection?
A No, it isn't. Almost certainly, you just have a fungus infection of the skin. Please see a doctor and have this diagnosis confirmed. She will probably give you some anti-fungus cream.
However, you say that you have an active sex life. If you are going with numerous girls, you could easily get an STI. So take care.
Q I am in my late teens, and have regular periods. Doc, I am fretting because almost every day I have some dampness on the central part of my pants - what I think is called 'the gusset'.
Does this mean that I have a discharge? Or an infection?
A I do not think you have realised is that it is normal for all young women to produce a little vaginal secretion each day. This does tend to wet the area that you correctly call 'the gusset.'
This wetness is a totally natural phenomenon, from teenage years onwards. It is more marked at some parts of the cycle than others. And it increases in volume if you get sexually excited.
It is not correct to call this natural secretion 'a discharge.' And you need not fret about it unless:
- It makes you itchy;
- It makes you sore;
- It is coloured - like yellow, green or brown.
- There is blood in it.
If any of those things happens, see a doctor.
Q Can you explain something that is puzzling me, Doc? If I go to bed with my fiancee and have sexual intercourse with her, should that automatically make her discharge?
A No, not at all. As you know, guys find it easy to climax, and most of them can do it after only a couple of minutes of sexual stimulation.
That is not the case with girls. It is often quite difficult for them to orgasm, especially when they are fairly young.
Furthermore, intercourse alone will not make most young females climax. They need:
- A relaxed and romantic atmosphere;
- Plenty of stimulation around the clitoris.
There is more information on sensible Internet sites (not silly porn ones!).
Q Doctor, my loving boyfriend wants me to try a little lesbianism - and then to tell him about it afterwards.
Should I agree?
A Certainly not. For some reason, quite a lot of guys are excited by the idea of lesbian sex.
But that does not mean that you should do it, just to please your 'loving boyfriend.' Tell him 'no way.'
Q I am 21 and male. My best friend from we were at school together has just revealed to me that he is a secret homosexual. This came as a shock, but he is still my friend.
One thing, Doc: could I catch anything from him?
A No, you couldn't - unless you went to bed with him, which does not seem very likely! So you can quit fretting.
Q Doctor, whenever time I am having sex with my girlfriend, I have a tremendous desire to smack her bottom a little.
Is this OK? Or am I perverted?
A Well, many men have a liking for smacking the partner's bottom. Many others don't! There are also quite a few guys who like to be gently smacked by the lady.
All of this bottom-smacking is harmless unless it causes pain. And of course, you should not do it if your girlfriend doesn't like it!
Q Is the Pill 100 per cent effective in preventing pregnancy, doctor?
A It is very nearly 100 per cent if you take it properly. Unfortunately, human beings are fallible, and therefore women do sometimes forget to swallow their Pill on time. That can considerably increase the failure rate. So take care!
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