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Faith Counsellor | Is it a sin to have phone sex with my husband?

Published:Friday | June 3, 2016 | 11:02 PM

Dear Joan,

My husband is on a training assignment and will be away for the next six months. It's been almost three months already and I am missing him like crazy. We talk non-stop on Skype and on other free platforms.

The trouble is that my husband wants me to have 'phone sex' with him, but I am not so sure it is the right thing to do. He says we are married and we are not doing anything wrong. I just have a sense of discomfort about it though. I don't see anything in the Bible to tell me that it is wrong. It's just that sense of awkwardness that I feel about it.

What do you think?

- J.K.

Dear J.K.,

Whatever the Bible is silent about, I am not going to dig up a reason to call it a sin. Besides, I am in total agreement with your husband. If that's the only way you can pleasure him right now until he gets back, then do it!

I think you are uneasy about it not because it's wrong, but because you have inhibitions about it. It is time to get out of your comfort zone and please your husband. Besides, wouldn't you rather put shyness aside and give in to him than have him being tempted out of frustration?

 

I want to be a teacher, but my parents say I am better than that

 

Dear Joan,

I am so frustrated with my parents. How can two people who I have admired all my life be so stubborn? I see the excellent jobs they have done in the classroom as teachers, transforming the lives of their students, and this is the inspiration in me wanting to do the same thing.

I told them I want to become a teacher and they are so unhappy about it. They say I can do better and that they wanted me to be more than they are. I don't get it. I really don't. Teachers are the shapers of minds, and I can't see anything more fulfilling than that. I must admit that I have a sharp mind when it comes to figures. I am good at mathematics and accounting, and they want me to concentrate on that field of study.

Well, if it is, it will be in front of a class. They are encouraging me to give it some more thought and not go into teaching. I will be starting college in September and they want me to take the summer to ponder it, but I have already made up my mind. Joan, how can I make them understand that I have to live my life, not what they want for me?

F.T.

Dear F.T.,

All parents want their children to accomplish more than they did. Trust me when I say that yours are not unique in that department. I don't think they are putting down the esteemed profession of teaching otherwise, they themselves would not have dedicated their lives to it. I just think they want you to accomplish more than they did.

However, if your passion is really teaching, then I am sure you can find a way to let them see that it is what you really love.

It would be a great start to let them know what you told me - how they have inspired you to be a teacher. Open up your heart to them and tell them how you are impressed with the way they have changed so many lives and you, too, want to do that.

They will see your sincerity. I am sure at the end of the day that what they really want is your happiness.

Go on, go fight for your dreams.

B.L.

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