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Rupert Lewin - Daddy extraordinaire

Published:Friday | June 3, 2016 | 6:02 PMShanique Samuels
Rupert Lewin combs his daughter's hair.

EFFORTVILLE, Clarendon:

The ideal family situation is to have a mother and father in a home to raise their children, but this is not always the case. The reality is that many times, for one reason or the other, one parent might be out of the picture.

Rupert Lewin enjoys being a father to his four-year-old daughter, Jamaleia. It's a duty he performs with great pride.

"Being a father is a joy and a dream come true. To be a father to a daughter, you have to be very discipline. You have to be careful (about) what you do and say around her and what you do when you are away from her," Lewin told Family and Religion.

Her mother works out, so Daddy is left with the responsibility of caring for his child daily. On a regular day, his routine involves preparing breakfast, bathing and getting her ready, combing her hair, and taking her to school, a task not many fathers are willing, or sometimes able, to do for their daughters.

"Whenever Mom comes home, I still carry on with my regular routine of taking care of my daughter, but we still share moments when we bond as a family and that makes the child feel good and secure," he told Family and Religion.

"Caring for Jamaleia, I have learnt how to grow a girl child with care and discipline. I have the privilege of teaching her right from wrong and to be good and do good. She looks up to me as a father. If she needs something, she asks for it. She don't just go and take it," said Lewin.

He added: "I make a lot of sacrifice, and I am encouraging others out there to do the same. If you used to wear long pants, start wear short pants and save the rest of that money to look after your child. Sometimes some situations may arise when you would probably get in trouble, but just one look at your child, and that brings you back to reality," he said, adding, "At times, I say something to my daughter and she smiles, and that smile takes away the bad moment in one glance."

Effortville and its environs are usually portrayed negatively as a troubled community, but from bad comes forth good.

"To all the fathers, be a warrior and grow your child with proper discipline and instil good moral values in them. Make sure you play a part in their lives and contribute to their well-being." Lewin advised: "Getting a youth here, there and everywhere does not make you a father. You have to be present and play a role in their lives. Whether or not you grew you with your father, don't put them through the same situation that you went through. Behave in such a way that they look up to you as a role model."

A former player and captain of the Humble Lion Football team based in Clarendon, Lewin is currently the manager for the team, but harbours a burning desire to coach a team either at the primary or high-school level. "I love the game and I have a lot of knowledge to impart to the younger generation."

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