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Faith Counsellor | Choir master is a fraud

Published:Wednesday | August 31, 2016 | 12:00 AM

Dear Joan,

I have a problem and I don't know how to deal with it. I am on the choir in my church and I had an experience with the choir master and I am afraid to report him.

He is a friendly, outgoing, very spiritual type of person, at least that is the persona he has. Personally, I think he is one big actor.

One night I turned up for choir practice a bit early. He was there, too, and rain came down suddenly. The downpour prevented other choir members from attending. It was rescheduled and the director said he would give me a ride home. I agreed.

He started to say inappropriate things to me, telling me he liked me a lot. I reminded him that he had a wife, and he started telling me that Solomon did, too.

I accepted the ride home, but I came off the choir. I want to tell the pastor. Should I?

- D.T.

Dear D.T.,

I am sorry to hear of your experience, but I don't think you should have given up your position on the choir. You are not the one who did anything wrong.

By not dealing with the situation you are leaving room for that same director to try what he did on someone else. I think you should report it to your pastor. Your pastor will then decide whether his wife is told or not.



Do I have to be baptised again?


Dear Joan,

I gave my life to Christ some years ago and for a while, I stayed on the path. But to tell the truth, I could not resist the many temptations that came my way and I found myself back into my old habits.

For almost a year, I ignored that "still, small voice" pricking my conscience and bidding me to return to the fold. I finally gave in because, to tell you the truth, I don't even know why I went back out because I didn't enjoy it as much.

I have since recommitted my life to the Lord and am totally happy. The only cloud on the horizon now is that the pastor at the church I used to attend wants me to be baptised again. I told him I have already asked God's forgiveness and I am accepted back into the fold. He insists that I have 'do the first works all over'. I don't think I should. I am even thinking of attending another church.

What do you think?


Dear J.K.,

Congratulations on recommitting your life to the Lord. Churches have different rules and if you choose to be a part of an organisation, then it's either you abide by its teachings or find somewhere else. Please note, however, that if you choose to worship at another church, chances are that they will want you to be baptised as a sign of new membership. So one way or the other, you are going to end up going under the water.

Revelations 2 vs 5 says, "Consider how far you have fallen! Repent and do the things you did at first. If you do not repent, I will come to you and remove your lamp stand from its place." Right or wrong, many preachers use this scripture to be interpreted as baptising again.

Your confession and repentance are what brought you back into the fold - not your baptism. The decision is in your hands. If you feel the need to do it again fine. If not, that's fine, too.