Tricia-Anne Morris - all about empowering women
Tricia-Anne Morris is all fired up about service to God. She has a lot of reasons to be totally devoted as she has come a long way to be at the place she is at now.
A member of the Fellowship Tabernacle she coaches the Business Ministry, offers administrative support and lectures at Whole Life College. Describing her ministry as an "all around go person", she does whatever she can to support her senior pastors and the church's umbrella ministry, Whole Life Ministries.
The happy, contented Morris who accepted Christ as her Lord and Saviour in 2011, allowed her thoughts to go back to an unhappy period in her life, even while giving God thanks for rescuing her.
She went down memory lane to that period when she met and fell in love with the person who 'rocked her world'. Although she saw uncomfortable signs that he could be very aggressive in his interaction with other persons, she convinced herself it would not be the same with her.
"It was never aimed at me, (so) I figured there was no need to make a big deal of it. I guess I had forgotten that how a man treats others is a good indication of how he will treat me," she said in hindsight.
When he popped the question after five months of dating, she did not hesitate.
She didn't consider important stuff at the time like if his goals were aligned with hers.
LONGING FOR MARRIAGE
For Morris, all she could think about was how she had longed to be married and have children.
"I wanted to hear wedding bells," she confessed.
A month after the proposal he started using derogatory names, swearing at her, shouted, slammed his fist into the door, and threw tantrums.
"Although it made me uneasy, I thought that this was normal behaviour for people planning a wedding and a future together. It was only later that I realised that I was making excuses because these behaviours were not OK. They were clear signs of abuse," she told Family and Religion.
With that realisation came the desire to leave him ... but then she discovered she was pregnant.
She said he was so excited about the pregnancy, he promised to change and she believed him.
For a while, she enjoyed bliss, but it turned out to be short-lived. After discovering he was cheating she threatened to leave. That got him so mad he attacked her.
Promising herself he would never get the chance to attack her again, she was determined to make a clean break, but then she miscarried and her devastation saw her seeking comfort from him.
"We not only got back together, we also moved in together. Things went sour pretty quickly," she said.
Then she found out he not only cheated, but brought home his affairs. That had her packing and leaving the home.
Two years later, he was back in her life. Morris, who was now a Christian, was happy to hear he had changed his life too and was a Christian also.
They spent a lot of time, talking, praying together until Morris was convinced he was a different man. She started dating him once more.
Soon he was back to his old ways and Morris realised she made a mistake, but agreed to counselling with him.
IT WOULD NEVER WORK
It was during counselling she realised things could never work between them as her partner felt he was entitled to abuse her.
Fast forward to 2016 and it has been a year and a half since their separation.
Morris has effectively filled that void left by his absence by creating her own routines, volunteering and hanging out with friends.
"All this redirected energy led me to grow in my faith. During prayer time one day, I realised that I needed to repent of things that I did wrong in the relationship as well. The Lord then showed me that I need to forgive him, forgive myself, and just let go of the past."
Her experience, however, has not soured her on men as she acknowledges that just as there are good women in the world, there are also good men.
"Nevertheless, it must be strongly noted that abuse is wrong and no-one should accept it. It is never OK. You were adoringly and wonderfully made [Psalm 139:14] in the image and likeness of God [Genesis 1:26] which means He sees you as wonderful, beautiful and deserving of love."
Looking ahead Morris said God has now revealed to her how to move from trauma to treasure.
"He showed me that my purpose now is to provide services that will empower women and business leaders. So now I'm an author, radio host, motivational speaker, blogger, event planner and business coach," she said.
Morris also manages her blog and Facebook group, Women Inspiring Prosperity, a group created she said to provide a safe space where women can share their stories even while they inspire others.
Morris who hails from the Corporate Area, is a past student of Campion College and the University of the West Indies. She is pursuing a Doctorate in Business Administration which she will make use of in church ministry.