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Ask the Doc | 'My parents are forcing me into a club'

Published:Wednesday | October 26, 2016 | 10:00 AM

Q:My brother chose to play chess while my sister has chosen Red Cross, and I am not interested in any after school activity right now. My parents are forcing me into joining a club. Is that fair?

A:It is good that your parents are encouraging you to develop your mental, social and emotional skills by joining a club. You can go and speak with the guidance counsellor to determine which club you would benefit from joining.

Q: I am fearful of going down windy, hilly roads. We have to travel on one about two miles long on our journey to our new school. The bus driver does not drive slowly. How can I deal with this?

A: Politely and privately ask the driver to be more careful on the road. Try not to sit at a window, and also, listen to soothing music and close your eyes when you reach that part of the road. You may want to see a psychologist to learn more coping skills.

Q: I am in a new position at my small company which will require me to go out of town more. I will benefit from the travelling allowance, but my spouse refuses to come home early to provide child care. What do I do?

A: You will need to plan with a neighbour or relative to be on call on days that you will be coming home late. Ensure that you set a schedule for your caregivers to follow. This should include but not be limited to pick-up times, dinner and homework activities.

• Orlean Brown-Earle, PhD, is a child psychologist and family therapist. Dr Brown-Earle works with children with learning and behavioural problems throughout the island and in the Caribbean. Email questions to editor@gleanerjm.com or send to 'Ask the Doc', c/o The Gleaner Company, 7 North Street, Kingston. Responses to concerns are to be considered as general, as cases shared with psychologists privately would be queried more deeply. Pray always!