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Ask the Doc | Daddy don't touch me there

Published:Tuesday | November 1, 2016 | 11:49 AM

Q My father is touching me in places that make me feel uncomfortable. He will tickle me on my arms and as soon as my mother steps away he tickles my bottom. Should I tell my mother or call the police? I am 12.

 

A You need to tell your father that you are not comfortable with him tickling you anywhere. Also let your mother know that you are not comfortable with what your father's tickling. If you are not happy with your  mother's  answer, tell the guidance counsellor or your pastor.


Q I am upset with my mother. She is so busy and even though she makes 10 times as much money as daddy, I want her home more. Daddy is okay, but he is boring. Mommy is lots of fun. I am 14. We are Sabbath keepers and only Sunday is a good day for the family.


A Let mommy know that you wish to make an appointment to speak with her. When you talk with her let her know that you love her and know that she is busy making money so that you can have a good life, but that you need more time with her. Ask her if on a weekend you can plan some special family  time together. At church on Sabbath, sit with your mother and during lunch, sit beside her as much as possible.


Q My father thinks that my mother is cheating. He is never home. You see he is a disorganised person and always has to be running up and down fixing his messes. Mom on the other hand is cool, calm and organised. She is in sales and he always thinks that her clients are her boyfriends. Should I tell her to leave him? We can manage without him.


A Your mother and father need to go somewhere away from the house and sit and talk about the problem they have. If they cannot resolve it, they should seek the help of a marriage counsellor.

Orlean Brown-Earle, PhD, is a child psychologist and family therapist. Dr Brown-Earle works with children with learning and behavioural problems throughout the island and in the Caribbean. Email questions to editor@gleanerjm.com or send to 'Ask the Doc', c/o The Gleaner Company, 7 North Street, Kingston. Responses to concerns are to be considered as general, as cases shared with psychologists privately would be queried more deeply. Pray always!