Mon | Aug 21, 2017

Sherell Rosegreen: From victim to victor

Published:Saturday | March 4, 2017 | 3:00 AMCecelia Campbell-Livingston
Sherell Rosegreen

Today, United States-based gospel singer, Sherell Rosegreen, is living a victorious life. But the journey to the happiness she is now enjoying came with a lot of tears and heartbreaks.

Hailing from Ewarton, St Catherine, she was living in the US for over 30 years as an illegal alien where she didn't "finish school, kept moving from place to place while keeping her head above the waters".

She shared her gripping two-part story with Family and Religion on the abuse she suffered at the hands of the man she thought was the love of her life, and how her road to becoming a documented resident of the United States.

"When I was 22, I met and fell in love with a man who I thought would have loved me and care for me, but instead he abused me in the most dramatic way; he used my status to manipulate me," she shared.

Afraid, not having anywhere to turn, it got worse when she got pregnant for him.

The prospect of her having his child did not do anything to change his behaviour towards her; in fact she said it got worse.

"He would spit on me, box me, smack me around and tell me how ugly I was, and it got to the point where I believed him," she said.

When Rosegreen was three months pregnant, he punched her in the side of her stomach so hard "she saw stars".

To keep peace in the relationship Rosegreen would take the blame for things she did not do and admitted she was wrong even when she was right. But all that did not prevent him from acting out.

"He was very jealous; he told me what to do, what to wear, he would isolate me from friends and family and I was just too scared to do anything about it, so I stayed in the relationship. Besides, it was the first relationship I had been in and I wanted it to work so bad," she said.

In the third trimester of her pregnancy, her boyfriend came to visit her, but she hadn't arrived home as yet. She said in his twisted mind, he thought she was out with someone else.

When she eventually got home, she saw him outside her home, leaning on the wall waiting on her.

BODY SLAM

According to her, from his stance and the look in his eyes, she instinctively knew it was going to be trouble.

She hurried tiredly to explain where she was coming from, but all that was interrupted when he grabbed her by the hand and body slammed her against the wall.

"The back of my head started to bleed, I passed out on the floor covered in a pool of blood."

When she came to she begged him to take her to the hospital, but he just walked away and left her there.

Rosegreen said when help eventually came she lied about her injuries saying she had suffered a fall.

The repercussions from that incident saw her eventually losing her child, and battling for her life in the process as she developed an infection from a torn placenta.

Rosegreen is thanking God for the praying mother and prayer warriors that sent up prayers when the doctors told them she wouldn't make it.

"I saw myself in the coffin. I was staring death in the face," she said, now happy she was able to pull though.

It is for that reason she is reaching out to those who are in this kind of situation to get out and seek help.

"If you going through a domestic battle, you have to pick yourself up and get back in the battle. You are beautiful despite the scars. I lost myself in this man. He took my self-esteem. I lost everything and he led me to believe I was the cause of it. I lost my self-worth but I took them all back!" are her victorious words.

Next week: Rosegreen share about the death of her mother ... put her in the spotlight with immigration.

familandreligion@gleanerjm.com