Fri | Dec 4, 2020

Steve Lyston | Get back to basics

Published:Sunday | July 23, 2017 | 12:00 AM

There are a number of things happening in our society today which may seem disrespectful, particularly towards society’s seniors and the great men and women ­ icons ­ of times past. It is critical for us to get back to basics in the home. Everything starts in the home and should be maintained in the school environment. 

The nation has been compromising in the area of discipline. Some compromise in order to find favour with international bodies and individuals. Further to this, parents ought not to allow the airwaves to be our babysitters and mentors for our children. We have allowed the dress code in schools and offices to slide.

For anyone invited, there is a specific dress code for Buckingham Palace, and it has to be respected and maintained. We have compromised with nudity as a nation because of lust and greed, and now we are shamefaced. 

The disrespect and lack of civic pride shown with regard to someone who helped to bring awareness to the diversity and uniqueness of our nation, and to cause many to embrace the very things that represent our nation and the warmth, joviality and creativity of our nation, is sad.


Anything we do should be done for the protection of our children and to uplift others. Many in the media are airing things that expose our children to the wrong things at an early age.

Don’t go to the social media pages of others and post disrespectful comments. Even if you don’t agree, either keep it in the context of constructive criticism or don’t respond or react to it at all.

Whenever you are corrected by your boss, pastor or a senior member of society in general about your attitude and behaviour or how to improve yourself, don’t talk back and ask them about themselves. Use it as an opportunity to build yourself and grow.

Always learn the protocol of the house/office/church or of the environment wherever you go.

Don’t go in wanting to change rules at the get-go. Observe and learn. Oftentimes, people enter into a group, organisation or industry to disrupt and change ­ if you don’t agree, then find another organisation and move on.

Don’t go into someone’s home and immediately start to ‘investigate’ what they have, how they got it, where they got it from, and how you can get one. Don’t go into their refrigerator or cut off a piece of their flowers, or take off the pot cover to see what they cooked and put your hand in it.

Always close the doors gently when you are leaving an organisation. Don’t try to speak negatively about the organisation, the boss or co-workers. You are going to need a recommendation or they will be called to give an opinion of you.

Always have respect for a person’s office. You may think they are unworthy of the position, but they are in positions of authority and should you one day be in a position of authority, the treatment you issue will be the same treatment that meets you.

Regardless of the relationship (or lack of one), address your mother and father with respect when speaking to them ­ especially if you desire to have long life.

Say ‘please’, ‘excuse me’, and ‘thank you’. Don’t enter a person’s office, home or room without being invited to do so.

Don’t take a seat unless invited to do so.

Men: Don’t pray or eat with your head covered. Once you enter a building, remove your hat (or headgear) as a sign of reverence/respect.

Women: When you are in an interview, dress appropriately.

Men: Unless otherwise instructed, dress professionally for interviews.

No gum chewing while you talk.

Young people: When in public (transportation or buildings), always offer a seat to elders, pregnant women and those with disabilities.