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Hello Mi Neighbour | People who love others love themselves

Published:Wednesday | February 21, 2018 | 12:00 AM

Hello, mi neighbour! People who genuinely love and care about themselves will love and care about others genuinely. You'll find also that people who hate others feel the same way about themselves. In a similar way that motor vehicles are made by their makers to run on fuel, we were made by our maker to run on love for self and others. "... thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself". Outside of that reigns chaos: crime, violence and wickedness, etc.

The kind of love prescribed for one another by our maker "suffers long and is kind". It does not envy or parade itself. It is not puffed up and it doesn't behave rudely. It is not selfish or easily provoked and it thinks no evil. It "does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things and it never fails". Wow! This kind of love produces peace, joy and happiness everywhere it is in operation, even in crime-riddled neighbourhoods.

To express and receive true love, we must overcome barriers often erected by hurts, wounds, rejections and disappointments from others. The key to overcoming these barriers is forgiveness - a willingness to offer and receive forgiveness. All human beings are made with the capacity to forgive. However, this capacity remains dormant until activated by God when we open up ourselves to Him for His forgiveness and help to forgive others. And that's my sermonette for today.

It is also important that we learn to love ourselves in order to show true love to others. Psychologist Deborah Khoshaba says that "self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. Self-love is dynamic; it grows by actions that mature us. When we act in ways that expand self-love in us, we begin to accept much better our weaknesses as well as our strengths, have less need to explain away our shortcomings, have compassion for ourselves as human beings struggling to find personal meaning, are more centred in our life purpose and values, and expect living fulfilment through our own efforts".




The psychologist suggests that to enhance self-love we need to become mindful of what we think, feel and want. We should act on this knowledge, rather than on what others want for us act on; what we need rather than what we want, by turning away from what feels good and exciting to what makes us strong, centred.

- Practise healthy activities such as exercise, proper sleep, intimacy and healthy social interactions.

Set boundaries by knowing when to say no to work and other activities which deplete or harm us physically, emotionally and spiritually.

- Protect ourselves by bringing the right people into our lives. Some 'friends' take pleasure in our pain and loss rather than in our happiness and success.

- Take responsibility for our actions but forgive ourselves quickly. And remember that we are human beings who can learn from our mistakes like everyone else.

- Live intentionally. If our intention is to live meaningful and healthy lives, we will make decisions that support this intention.

So, let's learn to love and truly love that we may all enjoy better relationships.




- Alona, Westmoreland - for giving clothing and slippers to neighbour.

- Ms Robinson, St James - for offering clothing.

- Neighbour - for offering a dining table.

- Eloise - giving a wheelchair to a neighbour.




- Donna - Seeking help on behalf of Jennifer, whose daughter was sick from birth and badly in need of help. Needs food, diapers, clothing.

- Neighbour, St Andrew - house is leaking so badly that whenever it rains it feels as if they are outside.

- Navlett, Clarendon - badly needs a wheelchair and large adult pampers.

- Sister Henry, St Ann - asking for clothing for clothing for four-year-old boy and girls 13, 11 and eight.

- Neighbour, St Catherine - needs a bed.

To help, please call Silton Townsend @ 334-8165, 884-3866, or deposit to acct # 351 044 276 NCB. (Bank routing #: JNCBJMKX) or send donations to HELLO NEIGHBOUR C/o 53 Half-Way Tree Road, Kingston 10; Paypal/credit card: email: zicron22@yahoo.com. Or contact email helloneighbour@yahoo.com. Mr Townsend exclusively manages the collections and distributions mentioned in this column and is neither an employee nor agent of The Gleaner.