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Steve Lyston | Maintaining your marriage vows

Published:Monday | December 10, 2018 | 12:00 AM

Marriages are under attack, and even nations are putting laws in place that are anti-marriage or are amending laws to dissolve marriages quickly.

Many don't know that when vows are broken it brings serious negative impact on the economy, security, crime levels and the nation in general. The establishment of marriage vows carries with it benefits such as favour, grace, access; and all that is a great blessing. God takes marriage vows very seriously and Malachi 2: 16 says: "For the Lord God of Israel says that He hates divorce, for it covers one's garment with violence," says the Lord of hosts. "Therefore take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously."

Furthermore, Matthew 19: 6 says : "So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate."

There are so many things that are rising up to break marriage vows and separate husbands and wives - laws, policies, regulations, sexual immorality. There are many websites that have been set up to bring down many, morally and spiritually. There are many websites where people can purchase sexual services. There are robots that have been created for the sole purpose of a man or woman's sexual satisfaction - all of which are immoral. Open marriages are now the order of the day for many worldwide.

When divorce takes place, it eats away at the fabric of society. Some people may believe that when divorce takes place, you can jump into another relationship and then all is well; similar to the Hollywood happenings.

Every covenant carries four factors/elements - parties (those directly involved), conditions, results and security; and when these elements are not satisfied and the covenants are broken, there are serious consequences. Every person involved must ensure that their vows/covenant remain intact.

 

Communication

 

Every person involved in a contract, especial in marriage, must communicate with each other, and do so in such a way that everyone understands what is being communicated. Grace, love and respect are extremely important. Most marriages start to decline as misunderstandings take place.

Recognise that every time you try to pass the blame on to the other person, God is pointing His finger at you, too. In communication, mannerisms are very important.

That is why it is critical for us to get to know the other person by seeking God first who will reveal truths. Each party must make every effort to understand his/her role.

Understand that there is no marriage that will not have some kind of communication issue. With varying cultures, spiritual growth/development, mindsets all differ, so there may not be an immediate meeting of the minds, but growth takes time; and remember, change is not one-sided, it requires both sides.

 

Fight For Your Union, Not Against It

 

Sexual purity is key to good governance, regardless of profession - politics, church - so when a person is not walking in sexual purity it affects every aspect of society, even the justice system, and lends itself to inequality in distribution.

There are many in society trying to get their drive and zeal in the wrong way - threesomes, orgies, children, animals and toys. Meanwhile, by so doing, they have breached the contract and that carries consequences.

The greatest threat to climate change is the breaking of marriage vows. Even in politics, I wouldn't encourage husbands and wives to go into representational politics together. Where one enters representational politics, the other needs to maintain the stability at home so that the family unit remains protected. When a politician's life is not in order, it also impacts the people they represent.

It is not even advised to have bodyguards of the opposite gender to watch over your spouse, because this can lead to infidelity. There needs to be balance. Spending long periods away from your spouse is also something that each would need to look into; distance for long periods is not a healthy practice for any marriage covenant.

Without a healthy family there cannot be a healthy society, and for people to have and maintain true prosperity and their inheritance, it is critical for them to fight to uphold their marriage vows.

- Steve Lyston is a biblical economics consultant and author of several books, including 'End Time Finance' and 'The New Millionaire'.