Tue | Feb 20, 2018

As a man: breaking in and 'brucking' out

Published:Sunday | May 8, 2016 | 12:00 AMMel Cooke

Sexually, there is a world of difference between breaking in and 'brucking out'. While both are related to introducing persons - usually young - to sexual activity, the breaking in is for boys and the 'brucking' out is for girls.

Implied in the variation in language use is approval on one hand, and disparagement on the other. We have, to a large extent, accepted boys being sexually involved at a young age, while it is still looked at askance for girls who 'bruck out'. This is why a story in THE STAR, two Wednesdays ago, about a woman reporting her five-year-old son being apparently broken in, takes on added significance.

The headline was '5-year-old boy found naked behind grown woman'. The alleged incident took place in St Catherine, where a 32-year-old woman, who is a friend of the family, visited the child's home. The child was left in her care, but the parent returned unexpectedly to see him with the 32-year-old woman, engaged in a sexual activity.

The police were immediately alerted, and the woman will face charges which, if there is a conviction, could see her being sentenced to up to 10 years in prison. Children's Advocate Diahann Gordon Harrison commended the boy's mother. She also said a number of boys are being abused, the vast majority of which may be unreported.

Therein lies much of the difference between breaking in and 'brucking out'. The introduction of young boys to sexual activity by older women is seen as a rite of passage to manhood - the beginning of a long, fruitful career between the sheets. However, if a girl takes a similar path, she is deemed to 'bruck out'.

It is a sad thing because, as a society, we do not seem to understand (or care to understand) how much early sex initiation affects boys. If they come to sexual intimacy as instruments of pleasure, as toys, at what point will they be able to develop the emotional bonding side of that physical closeness? How will they be able to connect with a partner and the children who may result from that union?

The disassociation of men from their families is the stuff of legends in Jamaica. It would take a long-term study to confirm or deny - and in sexual matters like these, there is always the difficulty of ascertaining truth - but I believe there is a connection between early sexual breaking in of boys and the breaking of family bonds later in their lives.

Breaking in, a term fraught with no regard for the emotions of the one being initiated, can lead to breaking up.