Beware of the voice in your head
Please stand with Outlook in hand. Put the Outlook on the seat. You remain standing and put your self on the seat, beside the Outlook. Confused, right?
While you are able to separate the Outlook from 'you', things got crazy when you were asked to distinguish between you and your 'self'.
You will agree that you speak to your self. That suggests that you and your self are not the same.
Why, then, was it so challenging to separate yourself from you?
You have accepted that the image in your head is you. The reality is that you are a victim of identity theft. An imposter has taken up residence in your head, playing the role of a corrupted version of you.
The real problem is that the identity theft has been so slick that the vast majority of us do not even realise it. We mistakenly see this imposter as us. We think: 'This is who I am!' We live that lie to the point where, in some instances, the two are indistinguishable to us.
The imposter is usually identified as the EGO. I like to identify this imposter and identity thief as the voice in your head (VIYH). That VIYH seeks to control your every thought, word and deed. VIYH seeks to filter everything that comes in and goes out. The VIYH seeks to achieve nothing less than to shape your entire reality.
Some of us get an awakening and we start to question the VIYH. The level of this awareness determines the degree to which we actively monitor and separate ourselves from the imposter self - evidence of a spiritually conscious mind.
Make no mistake, an unrecognised VIYH has great potential for harm. Unchecked false sells have caused and continue to produce frustration, strife and division. We need to ask whether the way our VIYH presents us is how we truly want to be, or if we should remove the mask.
The VIYH has one agenda to serve self and increase self's importance.
VIYH uses two strategies to achieve its mission:
1. Create a need for attachment and to stand out, be special, be in control, have power, get attention, get more.
2. Promote the value of being different (I am not like that).
The VIYH's constant goal is to present its version of you as being different. If you are the same, you cannot stand out. VIYH also wants you to identify with things and people. They are what define you.
An example: An individual gets attached to his position. Dysfunctional thoughts and actions arise as he seeks to protect it and increase his influence. That provides the motivation for unethical behaviour, conflict, jealousy and even illegal activity.
If the position is taken away, he feels hurt and harbours thoughts of vengeance and malice. The alternative is to accept that he is merely a temporary steward of his roles.
This also applies to relationships - things and people come and go. Wrapping your being inextricably around anything or anyone inevitably sets you up for pain, loss and dysfunctional thoughts and actions.
Now, step back from injuring the man who insulted your woman. No need to victimise the colleague who wants your position.
Once you identify the imposter voice in your head and monitor it closely, the scam is exposed and the true you can emerge.
• Trevor E S Smith is a behaviour modification coach with the Success with People Academy.